My mother-in-law doesn't like me, and my husband is used to cheating again. How can I live this day

My husband and I were classmates. We were in the same class in high school and didn't notice each other. After graduation from college, we were all single. The day of the party was very happy. After drinking two more glasses of wine, he confessed to me. I was surprised. Later, he said a lot of strange things. He noticed me when he first entered the class. He was too shy to talk to me. Now he has graduated and grown up, and he doesn't want to miss this opportunity. He took advantage of the wine and forced me to kiss.

I'm silly. Although I talked about airport love during college, it was a flash in the pan. It didn't take long to break up. This time he gave me a feeling that I felt particularly good. After that, we kept in touch until he came to the city where I worked, and then we became true lovers. After talking for a year, I bought a house in my hometown. His parents helped pay the down payment of the house, and my husband and I paid the mortgage. In order to save money when getting married, at the wedding banquet, we invited relatives and friends who were close to us. We held a banquet at home instead of going to the hotel.

There was no atmosphere at all on the wedding day, and their family members also felt that they were not smiling. The thought of his parents buying a house gave me a little comfort. After getting married, I was pregnant with a baby and moved into our new house. My parents-in-law also came to live with me. After living together, I became more unhappy. In particular, mother-in-law is always looking for anger. She couldn't stand the food I cooked and kept talking. I added clothes or bought a set of skin care products. She blamed me for not living. The clothes at home were piled up, and she would really spend money.

With the accumulation of time, the contradiction between us became deeper and deeper. When it accumulated to a certain extent, I didn't even have the intention to shout "Mom" to my mother-in-law. Every time I mention my mother-in-law to my husband, I use the term "child grandmother" instead. My mother-in-law and I are not harmonious, which directly affects my relationship with my husband. My mother-in-law and I often quarrel, and my husband is very upset. Often refuse to go home to avoid family troubles. Several times, I found him chatting with other women and calling each other "baby". Another time, he lied to me that he was going to work overtime at the company all night, and the result was to open a room with a woman.

We quarreled and quarreled, and finally he returned to his family. It was not long before he cheated again. He was used to self-identification, and he could not change this bad habit. In this case, what should I do?

Reply from the consultant:

Hello. From your narration, the contradiction between you and your mother-in-law directly escalates the contradiction between you and your husband. Before getting married, everything should be simple, let alone whether their family values you. Just look at the appearance of their parents-in-law smiling on the wedding day, and you can see that they are not satisfied with you. After marriage, you live together again. With different thinking patterns, quarrels are inevitable.

You hate your mother-in-law and don't even address her, which makes your husband's heart very cold. Anyway, the house is the down payment they paid for you. If you are not warm to her, the husband will think you are unreasonable. After all, that is his biological mother. You should learn to respect her. Nowadays, the husband's cheating has become a habit, which is also a psychological vacancy. After being caught by you, he also knows to apologize and repent. It can be seen that he doesn't want your marriage to fail.

If you want this marriage to go on in your heart, try to forgive him. In addition, adjust your relationship with your mother-in-law in time. The source of the conflict between you and your husband lies in her side, and the family is happy with everything. It is impossible to be happy with resentment. If you can't tolerate his cheating, suggest divorce. Long pain is better than short pain.