Post Date December, 03 2023
When I was a child, my family was very prosperous. My father was a national cadre, and under the care of my parents, I lived a princess like life, carefree and carefree. I don't know if I have lived up to the old saying that happiness leads to sorrow, everything changed completely when I was 10 years old.
His ambiguous relationship with his female supervisor
In, Xie Xiaotian and I got married. After getting married, our relationship remained very good. Although he enjoyed playing outside and the nature of his work often prevented him from staying at home, as long as he was at home, he was very kind to me and my son, always helping me with household chores and playing with the children. It was a harmonious and warm home. But not long after, Xie Xiaotian had a change. In 1999, he adjusted his job and his new boss was a woman. Xie Xiaotian, who has no background, has been improving slowly. I don't know when he started deliberately getting close to his female boss, spending a lot of time with her every day, chatting and eating with her, and showing great concern for her. Rumors also arose.
When the rumors spread to my ears, I didn't pay much attention. I always felt that Xie Xiaotian had to curry favor with his female boss due to work reasons, and their nature of work made it inevitable for them to eat and play cards together outside. The most important thing is that the female supervisor is more than ten years older than Xie Xiaotian and has worked with Xie Xiaotian's father. For various reasons, I believe that Xie Xiaotian will never have anything to do with her female boss.
One night, my son suddenly fell ill and needed to be hospitalized. I panicked and called Xie Xiaotian. He said he was far away and couldn't come back at the moment. Feeling extremely anxious, I had to run to the hospital with my son in my arms. Unexpectedly, as soon as I left the door of the family home, I saw Xie Xiaotian cycling out of the female boss's yard. Upon hearing my voice, he immediately turned around and rode towards another intersection, perhaps taking a long detour. After a while, he arrived at the hospital.
Faced with my questioning, he explained that he was playing cards at his female boss's house and didn't dare to tell the truth because he was afraid I might misunderstand. I believe his explanation. The relationship between Xie Xiaotian and the female boss has been ongoing, and during this time, the husband of the female boss also called me to inquire about the relationship between Xie Xiaotian and the female boss, but I still did not accept the opinions of everyone around me.
A year ago, the female boss divorced, and since then, Xie Xiaotian has also become a frequent absentee. His phone is often turned off, and even if connected, his answer is always' playing cards'. I have repeatedly advised Xie Xiaotian not to get too close to his female boss, but his words have always been ignored. So I started to choose to escape, and out of sight is pure.
In the second half of the year, I went to Guangdong and naively thought that as long as I was not at home, Xie Xiaotian would definitely focus more on his son, which would gradually cut off his relationship with that female boss.
I didn't expect my move to work at all. As a person in Guangdong, I often receive calls from my son late at night. My young son always cries and says, "Dad's not at home, I'm afraid!" My heart aches and pains. He even cares about his own young son for the sake of that woman.
I am in a happy relationship with him
That year, a strange woman broke into my parents' relationship, and two years later, my mother passed away heartbroken. My parents' divorce transformed me from a proud swan to an inferiority complex ugly duckling.
After my parents divorced, I have been living under a huge shadow. Just as I turned 18, I felt tired too early and started working hastily. I chose to become a preschool teacher for no other reason, just because I feel that children are very innocent and innocent. Here, I may be able to easily live and forget the past.
That year, I was introduced to Xie Xiaotian. He is from the power department, with a short and chubby figure, a very ordinary person. Although we were talking about friends together, I didn't fully accept him in my heart, and I was also ashamed to introduce him to my friends. Once, when I was shopping with my girlfriend, Xie Xiaotian happened to be working there. He greeted me from a distance, and when my girlfriend asked who it was, I embarrassed to say it was an ordinary friend. Later on, I accepted Xie Xiaotian because he told me something.
He said that when he was 4 years old, he would make a note and send it to his mother's work. He also said that if I followed him, keeping it would make me happy. My heart suddenly moved and I said, 'Isn't this the person I've been looking forward to?' My childhood experiences have left a shadow in my heart. I just want to find an honest man who can treat me well, and I don't want to think much about anything else.
Xie Xiaotian is indeed very kind to me. Every day after work, he rushes to the kindergarten dormitory to help me with some heavy work. He even helps me wash my heavy coat and dismantle and wash the bedding. At that time, my friends didn't understand why I was with Xie Xiaotian, saying that with my appearance and job, I could find someone with much better conditions than Xie Xiaotian. I don't want to explain much, I don't think they can understand me. I was surrounded by happiness at that time, unwilling to think about anything else.
He said he didn't want to hurt me or her
That female supervisor retired this summer, and I returned from Guangdong. I thought that since she retired, Xie Xiaotian no longer had to rely on her and should have cut off his relationship with her. After all, she was more than a decade older than him, and Xie Xiaotian would not have feelings with her. Previously, it was just because of her rights. However, later on, I realized how naive my thoughts were. Every night, standing alone by the window, I see Xie Xiaotian and the woman walking into the door together. At 10, 11, and 12 o'clock, he hasn't returned yet, almost every night. I asked Xie Xiaotian what was going on, and his answer remained: 'We don't have anything, but it's impossible for me to cut off communication with her.'.
Finally, one day, I pretended that someone had seen how they were doing. Suddenly, Xie Xiaotian fully admitted that he had had that kind of relationship with his female supervisor for many years. Previously, it was just speculation, and I was always skeptical. Now he admitted it himself, and I was also in despair. I gave Xie Xiaotian two choices: either divorce; Either cut off contact with her.
Xie Xiaotian still repeated his previous answer: he cannot marry her, but he cannot leave her. He said that she had helped him before, but now he can't cross the river and demolish the bridge. I finally came to my senses: he had developed feelings for her, which exceeded his feelings for me and this family.
Xie Xiaotian said that in fact, he doesn't want to hurt me at all, and he doesn't want to give up this family either. He gave many reasons in an attempt to persuade me to accept the status quo. He said that compared to some other men who are fooling around outside, he is still a good husband and treats me quite well; It's also said that in today's society, it's common to see strange things. He advised me not to divorce, saying that it would not benefit me at all, and it would not be easy for women to remarry at this age. Xie Xiaotian actually said that if I accept the current situation, he will treat me better in the future.
I am conflicted. If I don't divorce, I will have to endure it as Xie Xiaotian said, but what a shame it is; But I couldn't bear to part with this family. Looking at the family I had built so hard, I really didn't have the courage to face its collapse. I don't want my son to live the same life as I did when I was a child. Perhaps Xie Xiaotian has seen through my psychological state. In the face of my proposed divorce, he said he doesn't want to divorce or separate from his female boss. However, if I really want a divorce, he also agrees.
I am really in a dilemma. Perhaps to make me accept reality, Xie Xiaotian has now started cooking and doing household chores at home again. He said he didn't want to hurt me, nor did he want to hurt her. For a period of time, he quickly fell asleep when he returned home and sat on the sofa. He said he was very tired, and I asked for it myself. Who's to blame? His answer was always a sigh.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
