Post Date December, 03 2023
I got married to my boyfriend who had been in love for two years. In the first year of our marriage, our relationship was as sweet as ever. My mother-in-law showed great affection for my daughter-in-law and treated me as if I were my own daughter. In the second year after marriage, their family discovered that I had never been able to conceive a child, and their husband and mother-in-law's attitude towards me instantly changed. They all say that a day of marriage is a hundred days of grace, but I completely didn't realize that.
When my husband first learned that I wouldn't be able to conceive, he had a very good attitude towards me and encouraged me to have confidence every day. I was very moved at that time, after all, my husband didn't dislike me at that time and gave me comfort and confidence. After my mother-in-law learned about it, she also found some folk remedies for me. She ate many folk remedies, but they didn't have much effect.
One night, I heard my mother-in-law and father-in-law whispering in secret. They said I couldn't get pregnant, so they cut off the roots of their family and the incense was gone. Sometimes my mother-in-law even insinuates and asks me, suspecting that I have been fooling around outside and cannot conceive. I really have a hard time arguing!
With the extension of my marriage time, the fact that I can't get pregnant has been dragging on like this. Let's live from day to day! But in the past year, my husband has become increasingly indifferent to me. Many times, I have actively asked him to have sex in order to increase my chances of getting pregnant. Every time, my husband's cold words refuse me, and he even says that he can't conceive a child, making love is also a waste of energy. I feel heartbroken and hate myself! Hate oneself for not being able to conceive!
When we go to my mother-in-law's house now, I feel very embarrassed. My mother-in-law looks forward to holding her grandson every day, but I can't help it. During this period, my relationship with my mother-in-law has become strained again. It is common to argue with my mother-in-law, and I am almost tired of this kind of life. Moreover, my mother-in-law also gave me a ultimatum that if I still cannot conceive a child at the end of this year, I will leave immediately.
What comforts me is that although my mother-in-law treats me badly, my husband treats me well except for not actively leading a married life. However, he is not as good as before. Faced with my mother-in-law's ruthlessness, I feel mentally deranged and at a loss! Finally, I hope that China Sexual Health Network can give me a good plan to get rid of this mental torment!
Reply:
For married women, having a happy family and lovely babies is the beautiful wish of all married female friends. When this beautiful wish cannot be fulfilled, one will feel lost and suppressed, as well as fear and unease. But we need to understand that sometimes our lives are not smooth sailing, and we often encounter problems like this or that. After experiencing some setbacks, we may be very sad, but we must be strong to face them!
It's really strange that you haven't had a child after five years of marriage! I don't know if you have gone to some major hospitals for examination to see whose problem it is. Generally speaking, if a couple's life is normal, the probability of getting pregnant is very high. If they do not get pregnant for a long time, it indicates that one or both of them have physical problems. Therefore, it is best for you to go to those major hospitals for a thorough examination and try to find the cause of the disease.
If you find that there is indeed a problem with one side of the body after the examination, then you need to take the right medicine according to the situation. You cannot blindly take some so-called folk remedies like before; If there are no obvious physical abnormalities on both sides, I estimate it is due to excessive mental pressure and psychological burden on you, resulting in endocrine disorders.
A married woman who wants to conceive a child must not only have a good sexual life, but also have a good environment, including a family environment and a spiritual environment. This spiritual environment refers to your mental state, and your mentality should be stable, not too happy or too sad, and let nature take its course.
It doesn't matter if your mother-in-law has a bad attitude towards you. The key is to maintain a stable mindset and approach this matter with a calm heart. The mental pressure is gone, the burden is lighter, the mood is better, and with appropriate sexual activity, one will naturally conceive a child. As for the so-called ultimatum issued by her mother-in-law, it was all her angry words at the moment. Don't care too much. If you make a good relationship with your husband, he will become your strong backing. I wish you happiness.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
