My husband raised a mistress on WeChat on his phone, only to find out when he became his wife

[Question]

I have been married for ten years and come from a middle-class family. I have always been wrapped in the appearance of happiness in life, believing that my husband and wife are loving and harmonious, and my children are obedient and sensible.

My husband is very family oriented and never has the phenomenon of staying up late at night, let alone having sex behind my back - until last month, I still firmly believed in it.

There is no absolute answer to anything. If it weren't for seeing it with my own eyes, I couldn't believe that he would have spoken to other women about love and missed you. God knows, he hasn't told me these words in a long time.

That day, my phone ran out of power and I wanted to call my parents, so I used his phone instead. After finishing the call, I suddenly wanted to check his WeChat account. I never check his phone before. I think it's too important for couples to have private space between them, making them stare at each other like spies, whether they're tired or not. So after all these years of marriage, I have never looked at his phone or computer. In recent years, my husband has become addicted to playing with his phone and has been holding it all day, eating, drinking, and playing with it. I never care, nowadays, who doesn't play with mobile phones? Better than him playing with women.

But what? But what?!

What do I see? I saw the heated conversation between him and a woman on WeChat. The girl's friends circled around, and there was only one little girl, who was so young that she was at least ten years younger than my husband. My husband has almost liked and commented on every status on her social media, and in the comments, there are almost all babies missing you, loving you, kissing you, roses

What I have always believed in completely collapsed and shattered in that moment.

Where are there dear husbands, dear homes, pictures posted on my social media, and photos of where I take my children? He never likes them. He also mocked me, saying that his social media is occupied by you guys who are basking in children, and it's boring to play. He said he never posts on social media, only has a few people on WeChat, and he doesn't frequently access QQ.

I'll believe whatever he says. I'm so foolish, really foolish, I've been married for ten years and I've been kept secret. What should I do? I can't help but keep quiet about this matter. I want to talk to him, but how can we talk?

Answer

Trust is the protective umbrella of marriage, but there are also moments when emotions cannot be sheltered from the wind and rain. It is not recommended that you confront him in person. Once you tear your face, it will be more difficult to repair the emotional void.

Many men with a strange heart, facing their wives' questioning, become angry and ashamed, but instead break the jar and throw it. In order to maintain their "dignity", they not only need to maintain the image of a good husband, but also are unwilling to give up the excitement of online chatting. Steadily running away from marriage a few times and returning unnoticed, many men are like this, but how could a wife accept it. The difference is that some people can achieve flawless performance, while others will one day show off their flaws like your husband.

Not all emotions will die in mediocrity, but most love will fade in familiar and casual moments. Correct his "WeChat extramarital addiction" and hand it over to a professional. The later maintenance of marriage requires your joint efforts.