Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband is my first love. From recognition to marriage, although there is noise, he never stays overnight. This year, because of my husband's job transfer, we separated from each other. We only met once a month. At first, it was OK, but in July this year, I found that he was wrong with me!
A woman's sixth sense is very smart. He fell in love with another woman (this woman has also been married) in the field, and said that he had no feelings for me and wanted to divorce. He also said that the life after marriage was not the day he wanted, and denied everything I had. We don't have children yet, but I really can't let him go! About seven years of love, why not? He also said that it had nothing to do with that woman. Even without that woman, there would be other women.
After knowing everything, I cried, made trouble, got drunk, begged, and committed suicide, but it didn't save him. In a month, I lost ten pounds and completely collapsed. All this seems like a dream. The man who once loved me so much changed when he said it.
I once went to other places to look for him. When I saw him living with the third child, my heart was broken. I said, "Come home with me, or I'll die for you." He looked cold, and the hateful third brother was slapped on the ground when I kissed my husband. My husband said to let me die, but I wouldn't, and then he took off his clothes and did it with the mistress shamelessly! I cried and fainted from crying on the ground.
Now my family doesn't know about it, but I told his parents that my parents-in-law always told me to be strong, told me to ignore him, and comforted me that I wouldn't divorce. But I am really tired. Although my husband sees me every day, he is so strange. He may not communicate with me for a whole day. I'm so miserable. How long will it take?
Reply:
Hello, friend. There is a Chinese saying that "the devil takes the hindmost for himself". Sometimes, people need to think for themselves before they can live the good life you want. The point of literature and art is that everyone has the right to pursue happiness, and they can only get it by pursuing it. Now, you are trapped in a strange circle of marriage. From the original enjoyment to the present bitter struggle, the happiness you hope and protect has disappeared. So it is a wrong choice for you to keep your marriage now.
In fact, you don't know why you want to stay married. Even if your husband returns, you will not be as happy as before. Therefore, in the face of this situation, first, we should learn to choose whether to give up decisively or continue to adhere. What is the significance of adherence? Second, know how to protect yourself. A person can have no love, no marriage, but must have life and healthy body. Remember that body is the capital of revolution. As long as you live, good things will happen.
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
