My husband looks for women everywhere before marriage, but after marriage, he will continue to flirt with my female friends

My husband and I have been married for three months. When we were dating, we found that he looked for women everywhere, took women home to sleep, and called Miss. After breaking up several times, it was very painful every time. I love him very much!

After making up his mind to break up for the last time, he found himself pregnant. He said to get married! Then we got married three months ago! I thought he would be different after getting married, but I found out that I flirted with my female friends one after another and wanted to sleep with my best friend, all of which were told by my best friend!

When I returned home, I found a condom under his pillow. I am seven and a half months pregnant now! It's hard for me to accept such a man again. I choose to have a baby and divorce! But every day I feel depressed and sad! At first, he ignored and shirked his responsibility. His family also helped him and let him be unbridled. It may be too easy for me to forgive again and again, as you said!

Now that two days have passed, he looks like nothing happened. After all, I have a baby, but he always comes back in the early morning at night. He also sends me a message where he goes. I also showed my attitude. I just want to have a baby safely, and there is no need to tell me about him! I am in a passive position, I have no job, and no one can help me!

Tonight, he sent a message saying that his wife should not be angry, okay? I replied: Do you want a marriage without respect and trust? He has nothing to say, so go play with him!

I can't feel that he has any repentance. I'm very contradictory and unhappy every day. I can't wait to divorce and leave. I don't see this man anymore, but I have a baby. I also have to stay in the same room every day. I don't want to talk to him. He feels sick when he touches me!

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For women, if a man is not self-respecting before marriage, even excessively and flirtatious, and has no loyalty to feelings, then never marry him, otherwise you will not have good fruit after marriage. Because a man can indulge himself at the stage of love, it is impossible to expect him to improve for you after marriage. However, in reality, many girls are naive to think that a man who has no sense of responsibility before marriage is bound to change for himself after marriage. In fact, this is just your own wishful thinking.

Women, how important it is to open their eyes before marriage! As far as you are concerned, when you can't see a person clearly before marriage, it is blind to enter into marriage with him. When you already know the other person's face before marriage, it is irresponsible and even contemptible to choose to marry him.

After all, you have a problem with your own vision. You are not responsible enough for yourself. First of all, as a girl with the ability to protect herself, she will not do anything that easily makes her have sexual relations before marriage. Even if it happens, she should avoid making herself easily pregnant. Even if you are pregnant, if you find this man is unbearable, you can't jump down because you know there is a fire pit in front of you because you are pregnant!

In fact, you know that this man is not so good, but you are fascinated and paralyzed by him. The facts once again proved mercilessly that this man indulged before marriage, not only did not have the slightest restraint after marriage, but also went too far. He flirted with your girlfriend and girlfriend one after another. What kind of man is this? He is just a rogue and a smelly rogue.

Now, from your letter, although you said you wanted to divorce him, I can't tell you that you still can't leave. It's not clear how many months your baby has been in your belly now. It may be unrealistic to kill the baby. If you choose to give birth to this child, you really need to be careful about divorce. You should think well, because it involves a series of problems after the birth of the child.

Maybe it's a headache for you to choose now, but since you have chosen this man and want to conceive a child with him, you have to prepare for both:

First, if you don't divorce and continue to live with him, you need to have your own bottom line and dignity. You can't always tolerate him. At least, when he makes some excessive behavior, you must negotiate with him, and let him know that he will pay the corresponding price for his behavior. If a person always makes mistakes at a low cost, he can't restrain his behavior.

Second, if you don't take him seriously, that is, don't pay attention to you. It's just like living with him is more than dying. Then there is really no need to hold back, and you need to prepare for the worst. Before making this plan, you must start to be self-reliant and independent, both financially and spiritually. Otherwise, you can never get rid of the domination and bullying of others. Now, your fatal injury is that you don't have your own job, you don't have your own business to do, you don't have your own source of income, and how can you be self-reliant. So from now on, you should have a sense of crisis in your marriage, and don't muddle along like this. Start from finding a job that suits you, even if it is to do a WeChat business at home, or do a small craft, as long as you can create value with your own labor, You can't give up your own growth, otherwise, you really can't control your own destiny, and you can only live with the humiliation of watching men's faces in marriage.