My husband is very indifferent to me after marriage, always mocking me for not being worthy of him, and I have no hope of marriage

Before I met my husband, I had an unfortunate marriage. He was very popular and spoke very well, as if he had eaten honey. It was only after listening to his sweet words that I handed myself over to him. After less than two years of marriage, he began to put in a lot of effort. He even climbed onto the female boss of their company and stayed with her all day, leaving me alone at home.

I advised him to take it easy, but he refuted me, saying that men's careers should be left to women. I angrily scolded him for eating soft food, but he didn't take it seriously. I had nowhere to vent my anger and decisively proposed a divorce. Without children, they went their separate ways after divorce and never contacted again.

After the divorce, I have been unable to escape the shadow of my ex husband's infidelity. My parents saw me sad and anxious, and I was also in a hurry. Someone arranged a blind date for me, maybe it's because I haven't opened my heart yet, and I don't have a crush on anyone. After being single for a year, I got to know my current husband through WeChat. We are from the same city and there are certain differences in family conditions. Although I am a second marriage, he is five years older than me in terms of age. A simple and honest appearance is much more reliable than her ex husband's slick tone.

He listens to me very well and will not refute any requests I make. After chatting on WeChat for a while, we made an appointment to talk about life and ideals. I told him about my past, and his condensed expression expressed sympathy for me. After knowing each other for a year, we prepared to get married. In our first year of marriage, we lived a very ordinary life without any conflicts. The next year, his attitude towards me began to change, and I always felt neither hot nor cold.

Later, I became pregnant and gave birth to a daughter, who had a slightly better attitude towards me. He slowly explored ways to make money outside, starting from a small business and getting started, the business grew bigger and bigger. After having money, his temper became worse and worse, and his mentality underwent a significant change. He was very generous in spending money, had more and more friends around him, and his time to go home became later and later. I couldn't sit still and took the initiative to talk to him.

He got drunk that day and said a lot of dirty things. He said that when he first got married, his family felt embarrassed because he had married a second married woman. In front of his friends, he even felt that he was a bit short of them. Nowadays, he can also be considered a person with face, and a person of my identity cannot stand up to the stage. During the conversation, he even showed me a photo of his lover outside. He said that this kind of woman has aura, can make money for her, and can also relieve her boredom. I am not worthy of him.

After hearing what he said, I was going crazy. He has two stinky money, and he is so proud and forgetful. I am his wife, and he insulted me like this. Why is heaven so unfair, the failure of the first marriage, and why is it tormenting me so much the second time. What am I supposed to do?

reply:

From your husband's words, it can be seen that he has developed an inferiority complex due to poor family conditions since childhood. Once you have the capital to show off, you will become too restless and complacent. This type of person is caused by a strong sense of self-esteem. Without the ability, they accumulate hatred. With the ability, they erupt and show off everywhere. If he is an outsider, you can stay away if you can't afford it, but he is your husband and the father of the child.

Although it's just about being drunk and speaking the truth, I still feel like when he wakes up, you can have a good conversation. Open each other's hearts, if they can recognize their mistakes and correct them, you can consider giving them another chance. If you are still so proud and conceited, you don't have to show mercy and use legal procedures to protect your rights. Everyone has the right to pursue a happy life, and living a life of grievances and fulfillment is not something you should have.