My husband is looking for a lover outside, but he blames me for not being generous enough

My husband and I have been married for seven years, and we have suffered a lot together. In the past, I listened to whatever he said. He had a relationship with his colleagues due to work matters, but we had already obtained a divorce certificate before, which was a negotiated divorce. In order to open a store, we obtained a divorce certificate. After three years, he had a relationship with his colleague. He said he didn't love her and asked me to wait for him. After more than a year, I can't wait anymore because every time he comes back, he always says something's wrong with me, saying that I didn't do it well. Still being cruel to me, I couldn't bear it and left. But he came to see me again. In my house, he took medicine to commit suicide, even hit me, and said he wanted to kill me with a knife. Later on, we talked a lot and finally made up. He said he was gradually distancing himself from the woman, but I knew they were colleagues and also in the same unit, so it was impossible to separate.

He promised to apply for a marriage certificate, and we did, but he still wanted to tangle with the woman. It should be said that the woman would not let go. I feel uncomfortable and always angry. His colleague said that she is willing to be his lifelong lover. She asked my husband to apply for a marriage certificate for me, and he would quarrel with me for two or three months, and then divorce me. His colleague also told me not to involve my husband in our argument. Now they are still sleeping together, and I feel very uncomfortable in my heart. My husband said I am not grand and generous, but what can I do? Now that my husband comes back, I don't know why. I'm sad and no one cares, and I don't care about it. No one cares about me.

I don't know if our marriage can continue? Please help me, teacher!

Ms. Wang:

A husband who has divorced you, a husband who has an unbreakable lover outside, a husband who doesn't care about you, a husband who thinks you haven't done well either, a husband who blames you for not being generous with his lover outside, is this the husband you want? What extravagant expectations are you still holding for your marriage? Is it because of the hardships we had endured together for many years? Are you still afraid that he will take the medicine again? These reasons are often insignificant. That lover is much smarter than you. She is willing to be a lifelong lover because your man is not easy to serve. If you have conflicts in your life, don't drag her into it. She just wants to wait and reap the benefits. The more you fight each other, the happier she will be.

The culprit behind all this is indeed your husband, who lacks the responsibility of a man. He is eating from the bowl and looking at the pot. But don't forget, you also have the right to choose your life. You have no obligation to pay for his reckless behavior, and you don't need to keep this heartless man. Even if he kills himself with medicine, as long as he doesn't die in your home, it's none of your business. What is the use of picking up this marriage that exists in name only? Let go of yourself. If you still crave happiness, don't trample on yourself. Pack yourself up and start a new journey in life. Don't place any hope on him or let him become a stumbling block for you to move forward. Remember, whether he or that woman lives or dies, it has nothing to do with you.