Post Date December, 03 2023
After three years of marriage, our relationship is very stable and comfortable. Years ago, I found that my husband paid attention to dressing up, and always looked in the mirror before going out. I used to get up in the morning and never leave the warm bed until the last minute. For his change, I always think that the company has promoted him. Pay attention to the image. It is reasonable. I don't care much.
Since we got married, I have taken care of our money. Recently, my husband's salary has been half less than usual. When asked why, he replied that he needed money for promotion, entertainment, buying some decent clothes and so on. His explanation sounded reasonable, so I acquiesced. Half a month ago, I helped my husband dry clean his suit. In my pocket, I found a bill of payment for the hotel. The time to read the bill should be the hour room. I'm surprised that he hasn't been on business recently. How can he have such a thing?
My heart began to panic, and my hand involuntarily continued to turn over his clothes. A very long hair came into my sight. I calmed my anger and waited for him to explain. He did not wait for me to ask. He has been cheating for a year. The other party is a 26-year-old girl. Later, I couldn't hear a word of his words, and my mind was buzzing.
I should take these into account from the time he can dress up to the time he pays half his salary, but I don't care. Let their feelings develop so fast that they have reached the point of going to bed. After I found him cheating, I made a big noise and took the child back to my mother's house. My husband apologized and ran to my house to ask me to forgive him. A few tears fell during the speech. My heart softened and I forgave him. I didn't relax my vigilance and continued to observe his behavior. I flipped his cell phone while he was unprepared.
They are still in contact. In the WeChat conversation, the third party knows that it has failed to become a regular and wants to quit, but her husband comforts her, and so on. On the one hand, he wants to save his family and stabilize me, on the other hand, he doesn't give up this extramarital affair. What is he thinking? Don't he understand that fish and bear's paw can't have both? What should I do now? Take out the WeChat chat record and fight with him in the end?
Reply from the consultant:
Hello, your current problem is a common problem in society. A man is looking for a mistress outside, but he still wants to be calm at home. The typical "eating from the bowl and looking at the pot", to put it more popularly, is greed. If you continue to yearn for marriage, you must warn your husband to take good care of himself. If his behavior continues like this, he will lose his dignity in front of children in the future. When encountering this kind of thing, first of all, we should not be aggrieved and seek perfection. In the face of problems, we should bravely come forward and solve them. Don't let his selfish mentality continue to spread.
