Post Date December, 02 2023
"After a year of marriage, I still want to fall in love," said Ms. Wu Dai (alias). It's hard to understand.
Wu Dai said that in the eyes of outsiders, our marriage is very happy and enviable, but in fact, I can't feel the love of my lover in the marriage. There is no verbal communication, no love, let alone intimacy. Sometimes I am injured accidentally. The first person who jumps out to care about is not my husband, who is always indifferent to me.
Sometimes when asked his questions, he would say "boring", but the phone calls from colleagues and outsiders were particularly attentive and enthusiastic. This makes me feel very sad. In his eyes, my wife is far inferior to her colleagues.
We sleep on one side of the big bed. I don't know whether people in marriage are all like this. I have been tortured from a young girl to a resentful woman, and often feel unwilling.
Every time I look at other lovers and couples, I envy them deeply. However, in this cold marriage world, I feel so cold that I can't feel human care. For example, a strange netizen asked me about my recent status, and I don't know what to say? What about marriage? What about love? Or do I yearn for love?
I yearn for love, for my husband's care, and for him to whisper in his ear. But the reality is that seeing his often cold expression, cold words, and even the attitude that has nothing to do with him, I have to consider whether this marriage will continue, and doubt whether it is right to hold hands with him in the past.
In love, I envy and yearn for all the people in love. The people in love are loving, caring and caring for each other. The pain in my heart is as cold as tears with salt frost. How could I have been so angry in the past? Why don't I want to laugh?
I remember that the net name I chose was to make myself laugh all the time, because there were so many ups and downs. I thought I could laugh with each other after I found my lover, but who could think of it?
I don't think it's too much to think about love in such a marriage. If someone else says too much, I think it is important to live in an iceberg. If someone else uses communication as a help, I think it is because they don't know what communication is. Communication is both sides and mutual.
But now it's just me who wants to say that there is no feedback. Is this called communication? It's not as good as talking to Dashan. Dashan can also feedback each other's voice. And me? Who can tell you more about the troubles and worries of a lonely person?
Comments:
There are also many cases of cold violence after marriage. When people are exposed to cold violence for a long time, their psychological defense is easy to collapse, and the destructive force is greater and more lasting. Because the words and attitudes under cold violence are different from the general anger, anger is still a kind of "care", but the calm injury of cold violence makes people tremble and lose confidence, but there will be many concerns if the marriage breaks down.
Therefore, this kind of situation can make people go to extremes, and once tragedy happens, it is shocking and incredible, because there is no sign on the surface.
In the case of Wu Dai, the idea of love after marriage can be understood. A woman hopes that her husband will still care about her as he did when he was in love, but her husband's indifference after marriage completely drives her to the bottom of the cold. And if you don't care about anything and don't intervene, it will inevitably make women feel cold. At this time, both sides need to actively communicate to solve the problem. The cold violence has lasted for a long time, and the family breakdown is also a matter of time, and happiness is far away.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
