My husband is cheating on a business trip and is determined to divorce after being exposed

We were married in 2013. After nearly three years of married life, our relationship has been unstable, rising and falling. The main reason is the husband's work. In the first year of marriage, his work has changed. He often travels from place to place, ranging from a week to a month. I hate a person most, especially at night, when I sleep alone in a big bed, it seems so lonely. So, I often complain with my husband on the phone at night. When the princess gets angry, she can't listen to anything and makes trouble for nothing until the middle of the night.

At first, he could accept my venting. Later, he told me that he was tired and didn't want to hear any complaints from me. Especially when he is too tired to breathe, he should listen to my nagging. Hearing what he said, I had an ominous feeling. This premonition came quickly. He asked me for a divorce for a simple reason: tired. The reason was completely unconvincing. I refused his request. After my insistence, he said to consider it.

At the end of this year, we went home to spend the New Year with his parents. The old man didn't know that we were in trouble, so he urged us to give them a big grandson as soon as possible, so they could take care of us while they were young. I looked at my husband. He smiled at me and readily agreed. I thought our relationship had been restored. But in March this year, he proposed to divorce again. This time, his attitude was obviously stronger than last time. After the last time, my vexatious habit has obviously changed a lot. I don't understand why he wants to divorce.

I have feelings for him. I don't want the marriage to end like this. In order to win back his heart, I even thought of going to his unit to find their leader and transfer him back. I'm afraid that he will blame me for many things when he knows. My friends reminded me that my husband may have cheated. For people who are away on business, there is a great chance. My friend also helped me with an idea that I should go to the place where my husband was on business to catch adultery when I was unprepared. Today, I actually want to practice this kind of plot of catching adultery seen on TV. Although I have ten thousand reluctantly in my heart, can there be a better way?

Divorce has been dragging on. During the May Day holiday, I called my husband. He won't come for the holiday. I bought the ticket and ran to him to find out. I am fully prepared. If he cheats, I will not forgive him. At the moment when I appeared in front of him, he was shocked. He moved his collar unconsciously and said a lot of cliches without laughing. When he invited me to dinner, I complied with him, poured a lot of wine into him, and took advantage of his drunkenness to trap his words, and also opened his tight collar.

A lot of kiss marks were reflected on his neck, which made me feel sick. It was obvious that this was an act of cheating. Plus, this time when I came, he covered up, which confirmed my guess again. The next day, without waiting for me to question him, he proposed a divorce for the third time. This time, he was very resolute and told me directly that he really had someone outside. There was no need to investigate. The solution was divorce. I can't put in a word if I speak firmly. On the third day of my return home, he sent the divorce agreement by express mail. What should I do? I don't want to bargain with him and the third party. It's annoying.

Reply from the consultant:

Hello. I understand your mood. Because of long-term separation, poor communication and feelings can not be maintained, the couple is prone to problems. Now, you should reflect on the basis of your relationship when you first got married. You just care about your loneliness and tell him the garbage, but you have not considered what effect you will get if you talk like this. You keep complaining and complaining on the phone, and his patience with you is also swallowed up a little.

Every woman wants a perfect solution to her marriage problems. In the article, you can also see your dissatisfaction. Personally, you should calm down your excitement now. Don't cry, don't make noise. Crying will only make your image plummet. For you who don't want to divorce, no matter how far he and the third party go, what you need to do is to understand the situation of the third party, know yourself and the enemy, and fight with her.

The husband's career is on the rise, and it is easy to be topped by a third party. Therefore, the husband will pay more attention to himself if he does better in both temperament and career. It must cost money to raise a mistress outside, but what you need to do is transfer his financial power to his own hands. In the absence of money, see how he can hook up with a third party. In addition, you should also plan for divorce. In case he doesn't want to go back, you should collect as much evidence of his cheating as possible so as to plan for the future distribution of divorce property. I wish you happiness.