Post Date December, 03 2023
"My husband has had an affair, which has caused us to have a very unhappy relationship. There are also some money issues. Because I manage money too strictly, whatever I do, he always says these can lead to his having an affair.".
After being known by my mother-in-law, she also said he had a fight with him once, but she had a fight with him many times and said she would let him die. In the middle, due to the adjustment of the family, he also bought me things and cared about me. Later, it may have been because he contacted that woman again, and my mother-in-law learned about it. My mother-in-law got into trouble with him again, saying a lot of ugly things. "He also listened to his younger brother and suspected that I had someone or something outside. He also liked to drill corners.". I love him very much, but I don't know what to do now?
Ms. Zhang:
Most men who have an affair have a sense of guilt in their minds. How can they not let themselves gasp for breath in the heavy sense of guilt? Some men choose to make up for their shortcomings to their wives and families, so they double their kindness to their wives; Some men find excuses for themselves to balance their hearts, shift the responsibility for their cheating behavior onto others, and let others pay for their mistakes. At the same time, they can also be justified. Obviously, your husband belongs to the second category. Most of these men are irresponsible, inactive, and cowardly.
Of course, his complaints about you are not out of thin air, which is precisely the key to opening the issue of your relationship. If you manage too strictly, it can be seen that the right to speak and make decisions in the family is in your hands. Overregulation can make a man feel undignified and lose face. Over time, he will become weak and depressed. "The problem with your relationship comes first, and his infidelity comes second.". If you love him and want to maintain your marriage, you need to step back and make changes and adjustments for him. You can try to treat him in a gentle manner, allowing him to cultivate the responsibility and independent will that a man should have.
