Post Date December, 02 2023
I came to Shenzhen in 1995 and worked as a cosmetics salesperson for less than a year. It was hard, but I didn't get much. I think about a question every day: How can I make a lot of money? At that time, earning money was almost my only dream.
In 1996, as soon as pyramid selling activities became popular in Shenzhen, I was tempted to be very excited. Every day, I fantasized about developing a large number of offline sales, and then asked them to help me make money, buying a car and a house within a year or two. In April, I joined the MLM force outside the Shanhaiguan Pass.
In fact, people who engage in pyramid selling are eager to make money and fantasize too much and too much. Most people can be said to have gone crazy and are bragging about how much money this person makes every day, that person has already bought a car, and others are also preparing to provide for a house. In fact, of the 100 people who engage in pyramid selling, none of them has made a lot of money.
In order to survive, many people have to cheat on their relatives and friends. If there are few relatives and friends in Shenzhen, they try every means to attract strangers into the water and develop their own offline. It was in this situation that I met my husband.
At that time, he lost his job and looked for work everywhere. When I met him, he was thin and gaunt. I didn't want to talk to him about friends, but I wanted to use him to develop him into a downline and serve as a means of earning money for me. "I thought at the time that unemployed people like him would rather have a job and fantasize about making big money, so I became gentle with him and my words were full of ambiguity.".
Unexpectedly, he was very cunning. I didn't catch the fish I wanted to catch, but instead, he caught me.
At that time, I often took him to classes in the evening, and he willingly went there. However, no matter how hard I tried to persuade him, he never bought MLM products, nor did he join our "Mouse Club".
"I didn't catch his fish, but as they came and went, they gradually became familiar.". During that time, I didn't earn a penny, and my life was very difficult. I was squeezed into a small house with a few friends, which was very depressing. Especially in summer, the air is very bad, and my heart is very stuffy. "He rented a room by himself, and under his repeated hints, I dozed off and slept with him.".
In Shenzhen, there is no reason for many people to cohabit, sometimes accidentally sleeping with a member of the opposite sex. Several girls I know are all like this, which may be a special scenic spot in immigrant cities.
Women are different from men. After a man cohabits with a woman, it is possible not to have real feelings. However, once a woman has physical contact with a man, they will have feelings to some extent, and it will be very contradictory whether they break up or not. Therefore, although I have never promised to marry him, I also seem to be inseparable from him. This state of cohabitation dragged on until 1999.
Mothers all over the world are the same, always worried that their daughter has not married when she reaches the age of marriage, and deeply afraid that she will not be able to marry when she is too old. My mother, too, urges me to get married all day. I couldn't help it. In June 1999, I finally went to get a marriage certificate with my cohabiting boyfriend, but my mother's wishes were fulfilled.
My marriage is like a mouse crossing the house, without holding a wedding banquet, inviting colleagues to eat wedding candy, and letting anyone know. Except for the civil affairs department staff who handled the certificate and our parents, no one knew that I was married. This dull pain has been buried until now.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
