Last year, I found out that my husband had an affair. Our child is six years old, and he admitted to the affair and wants to divorce me. I don't want a divorce, so I kept dragging on and said I won't divorce.
He openly cohabited with Xiao San outside for over a year. Since we moved, everyone around us has been his drinking buddies. He goes home to sleep more often and even says hello when he doesn't come back. However, sometimes he still can't find anyone else. Several neighbors say they're going out to play together, and he also took me to play. Later, when I came back, I found out that he still contacted Xiao San.
I just called the third person and spoke calmly, urging her to leave. I said it's not worth marrying such a man. This man is deceiving you because I won't agree to divorce. I said a lot, and the third person also promised that I won't pay any attention to my husband anymore.
I'm not afraid of them being together, I just hope he can come back more. After all, this is a home, and I hope he can come back for the night. Don't be too blatant when playing outside and save me some face.
But I haven't had sex with him for two years, and I'm actually struggling. But I don't know if I'm really willing, but I still hope my son can have his parents by his side. During the Spring Festival, he also promised me to go home and live a good life, but as soon as I drank, I couldn't find anyone. I knew he was with my mistress, but I didn't want to prove it. He deceived me for ten years, and I asked myself: can I really let go of his infidelity, can I really let go of his cruelty to me in the past year? I was very confused, so I wanted to ask the teacher and help me. Will my husband return to my family this time?
Reply:
Hello friend. After ten years of marriage, you have naturally reached the most mundane period of marriage. Your husband's infidelity lasted for about five years. During these five years, not only did you not resist this, but you have been compromising and hoping for a complete marriage life. In this contradictory ideological struggle, you have lost more and more in your marriage.
In fact, a husband who cheats has a certain responsibility for his wife. A man who cheats is like a lost child. As a wife, you have an obligation to guide him back on the right path. It is impossible to stay married and hope for his husband's return in the current situation. The best way is to give him more love, accompany him out to work more, and have a family of three go out to eat and shop together to increase the peaceful atmosphere of the family. In addition, improve your survival ability, give the third person a certain threat, and let them know that you are not a lamb to be slaughtered by others.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)