Post Date December, 03 2023
[Question]
I am heartbroken. Over the years, my husband, father, son-in-law, and son have always performed perfectly, and even such a perfect husband can cheat. I feel like my heart has been pierced, painful, painful, painful.
Five years ago, my husband just switched jobs to his current company, in order to receive more generous treatment and better material conditions for our newborn baby. Everything is fine, but he met her in this company.
In their work, they develop mutual affection, love each other, experience ambiguity, and have only been in love for a year.
In the second year of our acquaintance, which was the second year my husband changed jobs, they went on a trip to another place and broke through the last line of defense. The two of them were no longer just mentally deviant.
In order to prevent the underground situation from being discovered by their respective families, they even applied for a small account and only used that account to chat and connect. The relationship between the two of them became uncontrollable, but for the sake of their family (according to their own account), their records of going out to open a house were not many, and they restrained themselves from two to three times a year.
And all of this, I was kept in the dark until someone woke me up and my husband had to confess everything to me. It was only then that I realized what a ridiculous dream I had had. In my dream, my husband loved me and my children deeply, and in reality, I kept another woman in my heart for five years.
It's ridiculous that I still know that woman. At the company's annual meeting, I attended as a family member and accompanied my husband to a toast. When I met this woman, she was very calm in front of me. If anything was revealed, there was no shame in being caught. On the contrary, it was absolutely calm. She can even answer my phone without feeling guilty.
She calmly answered every question and told me that she knew this day would come sooner or later, so the happiness she stole could last a little longer. She said that her husband ignored her emotional needs and went outside to find 'true love'. She also said that they often talk about me and don't shy away. He often praises his "happy family" in front of her, saying that he has a good wife, is good at managing the house, works well, and cooks quite well. He always says, "I have a good wife", which is sometimes jealous, and once he gets angry, he will be very angry
When I called, the whole person was trembling, but the other person was so calm. I said, I can't imagine how you feel when you talk about me. She has a neutral and indifferent attitude.
Could it be that having a good wife in his family actually ignited her fighting spirit? I, who knew nothing, became a catalyst for their love instead? My existence makes her feel that no matter how good a wife you have, if you end up sleeping with me, then she will be the ultimate winner? May I ask if they have this mentality? Is it?
Answer
Calm infidelity is more terrifying than an affair caused by physiological impulses. Because he knows the beauty of his family and can cherish it, but he doesn't mind having a different experience in life.
If a certain purpose is maintained, feelings can be deliberately cultivated. A person who is not too annoying, and a friend who can talk to can spend more time, it may develop into a "sworn friend". In other words, a woman who has a mind to find an extramarital lover, and a man who is slightly shaken, can hardly stop her attack.
Like her, she only has a spiritual support and can even appreciate his family from the perspective of a man. She doesn't pester or make trouble, so that men have no worries at all. She has already positioned herself as an extramarital lover and plans to develop in the long term. As she herself puts it, "stealing for a while is for a while.
Some people are stuck in a quagmire and live in pain, unable to see how well they are doing. She is calm in front of you, doing everything she can to prove that a good man and husband are just like that. With such a good wife in the family, is she still cheating? Based on this inference, it is not her problem or her responsibility that her family is unhappy and her husband does not love her. Her heart was like stagnant water, unable to stir up small waves. She could only refuse to acknowledge the deep scars left by those injuries by pretending not to care about everything. She hated every sleepless night she thought about it, but it was difficult to say. I endure emptiness and loneliness, struggling very hard, only hoping to steal some happiness.
Emotional feelings are very personal, just like before you knew about this, you felt very happy and satisfied, so her words are not entirely trustworthy. How did her husband ignore her? It is unknown that it may just be busy and unable to accompany her at all times. Anyway, it should not be used as an excuse to destroy someone else's family.
There is no need to speculate on their thoughts, thinking too much is useless and deepens the heartache. What you need is a conclusion. The East Window incident requires three people and two families to make choices. Guided by your choice, set the direction first, and then treat the emotional injury.
