Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband was my first love, from knowing to getting married, although there was noise, he never stayed overnight. This year, due to my husband's job transfer, we separated and only met once in a month. At first, it wasn't a problem, but in July of this year, I discovered that he was not right with me!
A woman's sixth sense is very strong. He fell in love with another woman (who is already married) outside of town and said that he no longer has feelings for me and wants to divorce. He also said that the life after getting married has never been the day he wants, denying everything about me. We don't have a child yet, but I really can't let him go! About seven years of love, why don't you just say no? He also said that he had nothing to do with that woman, even without that woman, there would still be other women.
After knowing everything, I cried, made trouble, got drunk, begged, and committed suicide, but it didn't save him. In a month, I lost ten pounds and completely collapsed. All of this seems like a dream, the man who used to love me so much has changed as he said.
I once went to another place to find him, and watching him live with my mistress broke my heart. I said, "Come home with me, or I'll die and show you." He had a cold expression on his face, and that despicable mistress, even when I kissed my husband in front of me and wanted to hit her forward, was slapped on the ground by him. My husband said he wanted me to give up, but I refused. Afterwards, he shamelessly took off his clothes and started working with the mistress! I cried, lying on the ground crying and fainting.
My family is not aware of this matter now, but I told his parents that my grandparents have always called me strong, told me to ignore him, and comforted me that I will not divorce. But I am really tired. Although my husband sees me every day now, he is so unfamiliar. He has lost his previous feelings and may not have communicated for a whole day. I am in great pain. How long will this kind of life last?
Reply:
Hello friend. There is a Chinese saying that goes, 'If a person does not do it for themselves, the heavens will take the hindmost.'. Sometimes, people need to think for themselves first in order to live the beautiful life you hope for. The literary point is that everyone has the right to pursue happiness and must pursue it in order to obtain it. Now, you are trapped in a strange cycle of marriage, from the original enjoyment to the current struggle, the happiness you hope and protect has disappeared. So, staying married now is a wrong choice.
Actually, you don't know why you want to stay married. Even if your husband returns, you will no longer have the same happiness as before. So, in the face of this situation, one must learn to make a choice, whether to give up decisively or continue to hold on, and what is the significance of holding onto? The second is to know how to protect oneself. A person can have no love, no marriage, but must have life and a healthy body. Remember that the body is the capital of revolution, as long as you live, good things will happen.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
