Post Date December, 03 2023
When talking with friends and talking about the topic of trust in the relationship, she said a paragraph that we all agree with: men, those who can't trust can never trust, and those who can trust won't check attendance at all. So trust is mutual and we should have confidence in ourselves. Will be free and independent! Yes, you will never be suspicious and self-deceiving when you can really trust someone. No matter how ostrich you are, hypnotize yourself and forgive yourself, you can't trust him in the end.
Recall the love we once talked about. We used to be the "most hated self", do the things you don't want to do the most, check attendance, manage him, peep at his mobile phone, even track him, and catch what... At that time, how much we hated what we did, and also hated why we should love a person who "doesn't trust from the heart"?
The fact that you check attendance and peep at your mobile phone shows that you don't trust him or this relationship at all. Then, it is also early or late that the relationship will fail. Even if you are still reluctant to live together, you are not happy at all. Even together, love is dead.
In fact, we just don't want to admit that we have fallen in love with the wrong person and made the wrong choice, so we constantly try to correct it and make it right. But many experiences also tell us that what is wrong is wrong. No matter how hard you try, you have to admit that choice is more important than effort.
You may also have talked about the feelings of mutual distrust between two people. They can't stop quarreling and checking. The life of spy versus spy is as painful as it is.
You may also be in good shape. When you meet a person with a super "victim paranoia", you are said to be busy with everything. You are busy with work, and he has been calling. You are going crazy if you accept his attendance calls and distrust inquiries every day. Finally, you find that you can't take care of a victim of paranoia, and the sense of security you give is never enough, but the problem is not you.
You think you are upright and righteous in your feelings. You need to defend your love and protect your rights and interests. So when you meet his ambiguous object outside, have the opportunity to talk to him, have a good feeling for him... even his third party outside, you scold the other party, scold him... and think it is right to defend the sovereignty of love. But in hindsight, isn't it tiring? It's really stupid to look back after breaking up.
If he really loves you enough, do you still need to "defend love"? Do you still need to swear? What you defend is not true love, not someone worthy of your love. People who don't love you enough, who are half-hearted, who love to play and eat, will leave you. Finally, you will find yourself wasting your life in a farce.
Perhaps one day, when you fall in love with the right person and talk about the feelings that make you trust and happy, you will understand that the difference is so big.
It turns out that the right person and love will make you feel good, confident and happy. In the past, those suffering for love will not make you achieve good results, but make you more aware of what kind of people should not love.
I often write in the article that trust is the most important thing in love. This is something you will understand only after experiencing some setbacks and self-growth.
I think it is as important to love a person who is worthy of your trust as to be a person who has confidence in himself.
The most important thing in the relationship is trust and confidence. You trust him, and you also trust yourself. Both are like the ends of Libra. The more confident you are, the more you can attract someone who can make you confident.
Some people have no confidence in themselves and are afraid that they will not be loved, so they are particularly infatuated with those who do not love them enough but take love as their name. Because he is too eager for love, just like a drowning man, he will hold on to the driftwood when he sees it, and he will hold on to it when he thinks the other party loves him. However, it is easy to encounter wrong love and get hurt.
My life experience tells me that when you want love, you don't want to pursue love and hope others to give you love. Instead, you should put the focus and focus on yourself first, and you should give yourself what you want first, rather than ask or argue with others. Don't beg for warmth from people who don't love you.
Don't ask others for the security, happiness and happiness you want. You should first learn to give yourself, live a good life, work hard, improve your inner strength, and fill your heart with love. As an old saying goes, you can afford your own.
