Post Date April, 15 2023
When I was a freshman, I met my ex-boyfriend and established a love relationship. He was my junior high school classmate. He always liked me a little, but he dropped out of school in the third year of junior high school. One reason is that my family is too poor, and the other reason is that I am not in good health. However, I was admitted to a key high school and finally to a key university. Maybe it was the hazy feelings in junior high school. When he came to me in his freshman year, the relationship between the two became a boyfriend and girlfriend.
In the next three years, we also quarreled and broke up, but finally we were together, and our feelings were always good. My classmates always said that he was very good to me. At that time, I thought he was good-tempered, and he would not blame me for my anger. So I always thought that when he got better, I would take him home to see my parents.
My sister knew what was going on between us. She didn't object at first. She went out to play together. Later, my sister got married and had a baby. She always told us to break up. To me, marriage is not emotion. So she only considered emotion and married her brother-in-law who was not very well off. The result was very hard. To tell the truth, I am also under great pressure, but I always feel that he is down-to-earth and willing to work hard for a few years. It doesn't matter. Everything will be better in the future.
After graduation, I went home to start my own business, and he also went home to do his own farming. He has always been very quiet. But my next-door neighbor always asked me if I talked about friends. I wanted to take him home to see my parents in another two years. Now my father would definitely object to bringing him back. So I said that I didn't talk, and they introduced me to people. In fact, in order to deal with them at that time, I agreed.
Sometimes I wonder, I'm 24 years old, when can he get along? When can I take him home, because my mother died when I was 18 years old. Before that, my mother always said that she was a drag on my father and asked us to honor my father in the future. I don't want to make my father unhappy, so I haven't brought my ex-boyfriend home or told my father that I have a boyfriend.
Sometimes I complained to my former boyfriend that I was under great pressure and that someone asked me to go on a blind date. He said, "I don't have the ability. You can find someone with good conditions.". Just listen to it a few times. He said too much and I was desperate. I would think, if I wait for you for another 4 or 5 years, you still have this sentence, what can I do to you? I just want to give up
By the way, when the two people were fine, he said that his old house was going to be demolished, and he wanted to get a marriage certificate from me without a hukou. I was very hesitant, so he asked me to tell my father that I had a lot of courage to say it later, but my father resolutely opposed it, cried for three nights, and said that his family was taking the house demolition as an excuse. I think my father was right, and this matter was so over.
Since then, I have been very upset. I didn't expect my father's reaction to be so great. I felt guilty for hurting my father who had raised us through all the hardships. Plus the words my ex-boyfriend said, I will let myself give up this four-and-a-half year relationship.
In those days, I always told myself that I would give up and have a sad life. Later, my sister-in-law introduced me to a boy (called A) and asked us to meet. I promised to forget him with a new relationship. Maybe this was wrong, but I just wanted to say goodbye to him.
Unexpectedly, when my ex-boyfriend saw that I didn't answer his phone call, he checked my chat call record, even included text messages. When he knew that I was talking with others, he sent a threatening text message to A, saying that if I saw A the next day, I would not go to live. Later, he always said that we were going to die together. What else was there to hate my family, my father and sister, and his father's failure to create good conditions for him? Everything was that he felt extreme.
He has several pictures of me in his hand, and always threatens me with that picture. Speaking of this, I believe my sister understands what it is. As long as I don't answer his phone, he will send me a note, and I will be very angry when he sees me. He said, as long as you marry someone else, I will ruin your reputation. I'm scared and dare not talk to anyone.
In the middle of September, I left home and changed my job. It happened that I was very close to A's company. His mother and relatives wanted us to be successful. To be honest, I was very happy to chat with A, and I met him once in early September. But he was too short, only 160, and I didn't wear shoes 168.
Because of the matchmaker's affection, they were in intermittent contact. Later, I felt that he was pretty good and gentle. I was very calm with him. He works in a state-owned enterprise and is very down-to-earth and hardworking. His family conditions are better than mine. He bought a house in the city
How to say that the more contact, the better I feel about others, and then I promised him to associate with him. But my ex-boyfriend kept calling me. That time was even worse. I didn't answer his phone. He didn't find me when he came to my place. He kept calling my good friend and even my boss all night. I'm really crazy about him. I really want to chop him with a knife last time.
Now I and A are very good. Although he is shorter than me, it is not embarrassing for them to go shopping together hand in hand. What's the use of the tall and handsome ex-boyfriend? Who can stand such a twisted temper? Can a man do such a thing? I didn't tell him that I talked about friends again. I was really afraid of him. But when he threatened me again, I said directly: I can show the photos to whoever you like. I'm not afraid anyway. I believe there will be laws after the accident.
What he said was that he could not die. He sent the photo to A and sent it to our boss. Alas
How can I meet such an immoral person? Now I am still a little afraid. A knows he is still pestering me, but I dare not tell him about the photo. What should I do now?
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
