Post Date December, 03 2023
Men have no fewer fantasies about marriage than women.
It's just that men are always poor at expressing, so it seems that they only want their wives to be beautiful and virtuous. This is not the case.
First, talking about friends and getting married are the most important events in a man's life history, because it means that his attachment to his mother has clearly turned to another opposite sex. But this transformation does not happen overnight. It needs a long or short process. In this process, he and his mother are still inextricably linked emotionally. This makes him subconsciously choose his girlfriend and lifelong partner according to his mother's external and internal image. We won't talk about the similarity with mother's external image. The inner image refers to the mother's love, patience, tolerance, gentleness, and even indulgence towards her children. Men's yearning for these feelings is far stronger than the seemingly strong desire to make contributions. A young mother who had just given birth to a son once said: I have two sons now, one is nursing in my arms, the other is my husband. Such women can make all men in the world fall in love without exception.
Secondly, men need a fixed sexual partner to relieve the pressure and anxiety caused by sexual impulse. This is driven by genes and hormones, and it is also necessary for the survival of the race. A good wife needs a good sexual partner first.
Third, he needs an admirer. In the outside world, the honor and authority of a man may be challenged by other men of the same sex at any time. He sometimes wins and sometimes loses; Sometimes self-confidence, sometimes inferiority. This uncertainty will seriously affect his whole mentality. So at home, in a small world where he is only an adult male, he needs a certain sense of authority, or a person who worships him. This is why many men choose a weak character and ability to marry among many girlfriends.
Fourth, men also need non-physical communication, that is, pure spiritual communication. There are many women who believe that it is a big misunderstanding that men only know sex but not emotion. When a man is outside, the psychological pressure is invisible but extremely huge. If there is no proper way to relieve these pressures, he may have a mental breakdown every minute. This is not an exaggeration. Just think about how many tons of alcohol men consume every day in the world, and you will understand how important the word "relaxation" is for men. Of course, the best way to relieve stress is to communicate with others. The most convenient way to communicate is to talk with your wife. But if his wife can't understand him, it's completely reasonable for him to call friends, drink and gamble and even stay up all night.
Every wife who complains about her husband's late return should think about the reason for his late return: is it because he thinks that friends or alcohol are more important than you, or because you lack communication?
