Post Date December, 03 2023
Some people say that today's men are really tired of living: they need to be the "backbone" of the writer, "mix up" in the fierce social competition, and sometimes be scolded by their wife for no reason. So, is it really time for men to "rest" or take some other measures? Please look at a group of survey results (foreign data):
★ A boy who was born healthy has only half the chance to live to 85 years old as a girl.
★ In the statistics of 15 main causes of death, the age of death of men is lower than that of women.
★ Men earn more than women, but their actual consumption is lower than that of women.
★ The suicide rate of men is on the rise, while the suicide rate of women has been declining. Moreover, the success rate of suicide in men is much higher than that in women.
★ Men are less able to tolerate mental stress than women. They are more likely to suffer from hypertension, insomnia, neurasthenia, peptic ulcer and other physical and mental diseases than women.
★ No matter in which country, there is no organization dedicated to safeguarding the rights and interests of men.
These facts show that the current situation of men's lives is worth worrying and reflecting! To this end, we put forward the following suggestions for men (especially middle-aged men) based on some foreign data, hoping to solve some practical problems and improve the quality of life.
One suggestion: tear off the mask of "strong" and admit that you are just an ordinary person.
Most men are ordinary people. After all, there are a few who make earth-shattering things. But men always want to behave like strong men - they may not know that doing so may shorten their life span. The main reason why men do this is to save face: they are afraid of being looked down upon by others, and "incompetence" and "cowardice" are their most intolerable comments. In fact, admitting that you are ordinary will not harm the dignity of men, but will help maintain the balance of mind.
So when talking to your boss, friend or wife, try to say "I don't know...", "I'm afraid I can't..." or "I can't..." to see what will happen - nothing will happen, right? Throw away the idea of being a strong man anyway, which is unrealistic and will harm yourself.
Suggestion 2: learn to "talk" to others.
When encountering difficulties, the most common coping methods adopted by men are venting and escaping. They either keep the problem in their minds, or work hard until they are exhausted, or seek mental stimulation: drinking, smoking, indulging in sex... This may make their mood temporarily calm, but in return it is harmful to their health. The consequence of these coping methods is that they increase the chances of suffering from cancer, heart disease and other diseases.
The right way is to seek more positive solutions. You can seek help from others (wife, relatives and friends, psychologist, etc.) instead of keeping the problem in your mind. Moderate diet and exercise are very beneficial to health. When you are in a bad mood, don't give up such good habits.
Recommendation 3: Review your life.
Generally speaking, men think that there are only two choices in life: work or have no face to stand in society. This invisible pressure is easy to make people angry, but most people often keep this imperceptible pressure of resentment in their hearts or seek temporary relief.
Our suggestion is to write a diary and write down your feelings. In this way, you can understand your true feelings and experiences and try to find more choices. You can also confide in someone you trust. The important thing is that you should re-examine your life: there are many "roads" in life, and don't let "work" become a psychological stone that presses you. Perhaps you will eventually find that life is not what you originally thought, and you can have better choices.
The fourth suggestion: learn to "give up" appropriately.
In the real world, the general criterion to measure a man's success is whether his career is successful and whether he has fulfilled his personal responsibilities. But in order to stand in the fierce competition, the advantages of being strong, courageous, independent and omniscient seem to be indispensable. However, this does not mean that you should always follow this standard. In fact, it is very harmful. You must try to "give up" some things: it is not a good idea to continue to work when you are ill. It is the best policy to leave the post temporarily and relax physically and mentally; When a child grows up, he must be given more freedom to choose his own way of life and control his life by force. In return, it may be contrary to the rule of law... "giving up" does not mean incompetence, on the contrary, it will help you to reposition yourself and make new choices.
Recommendation 5: Keep your body at its best.
Men usually pay little attention to self-care. Even if there is pain, I would rather endure it silently than let the doctor help me. This is a very regrettable thing. If many diseases (especially chronic diseases) can be found early and treated early, they will generally receive good results.
If you have realized the importance of health now, try to make some changes from today: ① A 10-minute walk every day is very beneficial to health. ② If you haven't seen a doctor for more than a year, go and have a check now. If he says that your current lifestyle needs to be changed, do as the doctor says. ③ Ensure proper diet and enough sleep, and often take some moderate exercise. ④ Don't paralyze yourself with self-consolation. Words like "I'm all right now" and "I can't have heart disease at all" are unreliable. Our body has a strong "tolerance", and some methods that can temporarily relieve the "pain" may cover up the symptoms of the disease. Tension headache, dry mouth, pulse pause, persistent neck and back pain, anxiety, dyspepsia, irritability and fatigue are all noteworthy "signals". The best way to keep healthy is to take action before your body "can't stand it anymore".
Recommendation 6: maintain harmonious family relations.
Whether the family relationship is harmonious or not has a significant impact on every family member. The family relationship includes the relationship between husband and wife, parent-child relationship, and the relationship between the nuclear family and the original family of both husband and wife. Compared with women, men tend to have a broader social support network, but it is usually their spouse who can give men the strongest support. Therefore, married men tend to be in better health than unmarried men of the same age. The disharmony of family relations often makes men trapped in internal and external affairs, and the impact on health is self-evident. In order to maintain the harmony of family relations, it needs to pay a lot of energy and time. However, the rewards of these efforts are rich, because in times of crisis, the family will provide you with strong spiritual support.
Remember, when the "crisis" has not yet come, you should be prepared. Cherish yourself!
