Marriage and family are flower beds for love. The flower beds should have enough space to grow, be planted in a planned manner, sometimes dig up the soil, sometimes fertilize, sometimes transplant, and sometimes uproot. Planting flowers depends on the season. The seasons vary, and the flowers that bloom vary. Marriage life also changes in four seasons. Each season has different difficulties and dangers, and the meaning of danger does not exactly mean "crisis in crisis"?
Therefore, it is necessary to carefully irrigate the small flower of love. If it grows with weeds, it will be disrupted and killed. If it is exposed to the wind and sun, it will not grow well. Only through hard irrigation, adequate preparation, and patient waiting, can hard work achieve results sooner or later. Isn't maintaining a harmonious family a kind of learning?
First danger period:
When a child is born, the pressure on the couple suddenly increases, and the original playfulness and entertainment are greatly reduced. The "triangle" relationship created by the arrival of children has changed the original "two person world", and couples feel tense, confused, and confused about their marriage at the same time.
Second danger period:
Four to five years after marriage, couples tend to find life dull and tedious. "My husband has worked for many years, but he has no bright future and is even more lazy about housework."; "The wife has to work and take care of the children, and is too busy to keep up. Neither husband nor wife has leisure and affection for each other. At this time, they may find another bosom friend.". A sociologist surveyed 70 women who had an affair with a married husband and found that most of these extramarital affairs began with pure friendship. When a husband or wife confides in others what they should have said to each other, both husband and wife are responsible.
Third danger period:
A survey by sociologists around seven years after marriage has found that between the sixth and tenth years after marriage, the degree of marital satisfaction of couples drops to the lowest point. In fact, the incidence of divorce also peaks in the seventh to tenth years after marriage. At this time, both spouses should help each other with the greatest patience and care to ensure the quality of their marriage.
Fourth danger period:
About twenty years after marriage, the physical condition of both men and women gradually changes. "When a wife enters menopause, she is often agitated and worried about losing all her charm, while her husband is worried about getting older - she is no longer energetic, her talent is no longer agile, she cannot play basketball and her son is hopeless at promotion.". At this point, he was in need of understanding and comfort, and his wife was precisely in need of the same. If a couple cannot give to each other, they may seek out other members of the opposite sex.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)