Many people want to know what kind of person men prefer. So what criteria do men have when choosing objects? Do they prefer petite and charming ones or strong and domineering ones? Radish and vegetables have their own preferences. Let's look at their common psychology and standards of mate selection!
When men choose a spouse, they mainly consider two orientations: one is social orientation: economic conditions, family, occupation, etc; The second is personal orientation: the woman's appearance (appearance, figure, skin color), quality (education level, interest, cultivation), conduct (moral quality, life style), temperament (character, temper, etc.). Social orientation is a volatile factor. People's social orientation when choosing a spouse during the Cultural Revolution is very different from today's social orientation; The personal orientation is relatively stable, such as looking at the appearance first, which is beyond exception
Mate selection criteria
Similarly, the criteria for choosing a mate for men will also be affected by their respective environment and cultural upbringing when they are specific to each person. In general, manual workers and mental workers have their own mate selection value orientation. The mate selection of a university professor is by no means the same as that of a porter. However, we can't say that there is no common trend, because all men are for the purpose of organizing families, so there are basic common points, resulting in the following common trend - roughly the same wishes and standards.
① Better shape
This includes three aspects, one is the charm of appearance, the second is the body shape, and the third is the color of skin. Men mostly put the appearance condition in the first place, that is, they focus on the sexual and physical attraction of each other. If they are not satisfied, they are often unwilling to talk about it again, which is different from women's mate selection. A woman can't see the man at first sight, but she often takes into account other aspects related to the man, such as rich economic income and satisfactory family status. The enviable social status of the man himself, even the fact that he is very close to his mother, is also taken into account. Therefore, he will not reject the man at once, but is willing to make exploratory contact, which may lead to a marriage later.
② A gentle and virtuous character
This is to emphasize the natural beauty of women's temperament. In personality, women generally tend to "emotional social orientation", while men tend to "work achievement orientation". The so-called gentle and virtuous, specifically speaking, is in the relationship between husband and wife, gentle and considerate; Be gentle in dealing with people and things; Be virtuous and generous in treating your mother and children.
③ Strong demand for sex
Compared with women, men focus more on sexual attraction when choosing a mate. This is connected with the first point "better shape". Someone has carried out an experiment on a man who is choosing a mate. Once he closes his eyes, he is full of the best actions, clothes and facial expressions of the woman. This is the beautiful fantasy and emotion caused by sexual impulse. The young man's "lust relieving thoughts" in a large number of dreams directly affect his motivation to choose a mate, which is a normal physiological reflection and should not be considered as indecent.
④ The woman is younger than herself
Since men choose their partners to be beautiful. Feelings are pure. It is natural for women who are gentle, virtuous and sexy to hope that they are younger. Generally speaking, when women are young, they have strong attachment to men, and men are most easily attracted and conquered by women. The two can be said to complement each other.
The above are the common trends of almost all men in choosing a mate, and the following three points are the common trends of most men in choosing a mate.
⑤ Learned but implicit
Men love their spouses and have knowledge. Nobody likes silly girls. But the woman herself should know how to hide her knowledge, hide her wisdom, don't show off her intelligence on purpose, and keep her duties and understand the world. Although the man kept silent, he was naturally convinced, so he liked and respected the woman.
That is to know how to "adapt", when and where to obey men, and how to pacify them; When and where can I show my wisdom in time to make men admire me. Know how to listen to men's stories at the right time and show a proper attitude of respect.
⑦ Be considerate
If the wife can understand the hard work of her husband and treat her and her children with leniency, and do not haggle over everything, and her voice is not stronger than her husband, the husband will naturally like it from the bottom of his heart.
Now women know what kind of women men like!