Scene 1: Mr. Zhang happily pushes open the door, his face shining bright red.
It must be drinking! "His wife was understanding." People who don't usually drink alcohol, what's the matter today? There must be some happy event
A joyful event, a joyful event, a big one. "Mr. Zhang, with his gentle demeanor, couldn't find it. He grabbed his wife in his arms and sat down on the sofa." Guess what kind of event it was? I'll tell you, my paper won first prize! That's great, that's great
My wife smiled even more brightly and said, "I said you can do it. Look, let me get it right. I know my husband's level the best
Upon hearing this, Mr. Zhang became even more excited and jumped up from the sofa, dancing like a child, expressing his emotions
My husband has put in too much effort for the research, which should make him happy and happy. The wife handed her husband a glass of water and smiled. She knows that being a good audience at this moment is her own blessing.
Scenario 2: Mr. Cheng, who is over the age of no doubt, has struggled for half his life, gone through ups and downs, and is prepared to experience hardships. My daughter graduated from college and originally planned to enter a company, but the company happened to be short of people in this major. I was about to report, but suddenly there was a rumor that I had to wait. After careful inquiry, I realized that I had already been bullied! My daughter went to a friend's house in the evening. Mr. Cheng and his wife brought up this topic, and the bumpy memories surged in like the tide that opened the floodgate. Mr. Cheng faced his wife and looked back on the hardships of struggle and the ups and downs of fate. He couldn't help but shed tears and even cried uncontrollably about his family affairs.
The wife held her husband's head in her arms, shedding tears while gently trimming his messy hair. Gradually, the husband calmed down. Men do not shed tears lightly. They are not intimate women, and they have no fate to appreciate the touching and true emotions that come from men's grief.
Scene 3: Moonlight like water, Mr. Liu is hugging his beloved wife and lying on the soft sofa, serving as a loyal audience for the TV. Suddenly, Mr. Liu turned around and crawled into his wife's arms, saying, "I'm very tired today. Rub my waist here, here..." The wife smiled, knowing that her husband was no longer a tough guy and needed someone else's caress. She hugged her husband's body and rubbed his waist like a kind mother comforting a young child. The husband was so gentle and affectionate in her arms, with a happy and comfortable appearance.
Women don't need to doubt, and men don't need to be angry. To be fair, as long as one has entered a marriage, the vast majority of men have played similar scenes, and the vast majority of women have played similar roles.
At the front stage of marriage, men and women play their respective roles. As for the backstage of marriage, it is difficult for others to see, and men are even more secretive. We are accustomed to positioning men based on the image of the previous stage, so even those fortunate enough to enter the backstage of men's lives will overlook their original backstage image. Men also seem to overlook their own side. Therefore, it is necessary for us to re understand men.
A survey has found that in over 1000 households from different countries, races, educational backgrounds, age characteristics, and income levels, there is an interesting phenomenon: men are much more likely to spoil themselves at home than their wives and children. That is to say, it is highly likely that all adult men in the world have higher levels of vulnerability and comfort needs than women or even children.
Men also love to act coquettishly, why is this? Actually, it's not difficult to understand.
Men are coquetry because of their Oedipus complex.
Everyone has a fragile side and a need for comfort. So who is the most suitable person to meet their comfort needs? Of course it's my mother. This is the imprint left on our brains from the beginning of life, and in later life, mothers repeatedly use their own actions to strengthen this imprint on us. So subconsciously, a complex formed: a mother is someone who unconditionally cares for us, nurtures us, and comforts us. We have formed an attachment to our mother, who has become the object of our spoiled behavior. But mothers cannot accompany us for life, so we subconsciously regard people who resemble mothers and play the role of mothers as mothers. This' mother 'can be anyone and is not fixed. For example, a daughter can become the psychological 'mother' of a mother, and an older brother can also become the psychological 'mother' of a younger sister. Although sometimes the husband may become the psychological 'mother' of the wife, more often than not, it is the wife who becomes the husband's psychological 'mother'. In the division of gender roles, women themselves possess maternal characteristics. This difference in gender roles is one of the reasons why men are more likely to act coquettishly in front of women.
Furthermore, playing coquettish is a need for psychological regulation.
Despite our repeated emphasis on gender equality, it cannot be denied that men have always played strong social roles. When the image of a strong person brings certain privileges to men, it also brings more psychological pressure to men. Men have received such education since childhood: you are a man, and a man must be strong. At home, even the most trendy families inevitably see men as the psychological center of gravity of the whole family. Many ordinary families view men as the backbone of their families, and when encountering wind and rain, men are the first to cover the wind and rain. You are the strong, the strong is the social role of men. However, the role of men is nothing more than a product of social culture. Men are not cast in iron, and in their natural nature, like women, they all have a fragile side and a desire for comfort due to their spiritual pain. Moreover, it is precisely because men have to play the social role of the strong that they bear more life pressure than women, and there are few opportunities to vent in public. People always need psychological self-regulation, so when they return home, men will expose their fragile side to their "psychological mother" for spiritual comfort. So men are more likely to act coquettishly in front of their wives.
So, understanding and treating men well through coquettishness is precisely the wisdom that women have in facing life.