In today's society, there are many people getting married, and every day is filled with fireworks and colorful decorations. A couple has received a red notebook, but there are also many divorces and many have received a green notebook. Why? Let's take a look together:
Men also have their own psychological bottom line when getting married
According to statistics, 5000 couples in China divorce and 5000 families disintegrate every day. In the face of massive numbers, we are shocked; In the midst of many men struggling to withstand the seven-year itch of marriage, we were surprised by the flash marriages and divorces of men and women born in the 1980s. What is wrong with people?
In the face of cruel reality, many men and women stop outside of marriage and dare not step into the trap of marriage, fearing that walking into the besieged city would bury their years of sweet love and their happiness. When falling in love, one is only faced with the pure love between two people, and marriage is simply a "game" between two families. Marriage is originally a great joy, but in some ways it is a "torment" for the groom and his family. From decorating the new house, to organizing the wedding, to the wedding ceremony, many aspects are borne by the man alone. If you encounter a friendly female family, it's still lucky, but if you encounter a picky family, it's enough for you to suffer.
Therefore, whether a man gets married or not, it's not that there's a problem with their relationship, most of the problems come from the outside world. For marriage, a man has his marriage bottom line. Once he touches this sacred and inviolable bottom line, there is only one outcome - breaking up!
House - The Pain of Men Getting Married
The hot broadcasts of "Dwelling Narrowly" and "Houses Beyond Prevention" have pushed the big problem of houses to the audience, and houses have also become the pain of men getting married.
In today's society, people's utilitarianism is becoming increasingly strong. Many girls tend to worship money and become money seekers, treating marriage as a trade for money. Without a house, car, or ticket, don't think about marrying her in. The high housing prices have made many men hesitate before marriage. How many eligible men can afford a skyrocketing house? So, many men, in order to get married, are willing to risk being scolded by others and also want to become a gnawing old clan, letting their parents buy a house for them to get married. Poor father, in order to have a grandson as soon as possible and for the happiness of his son, he has contributed every penny left over from his hard life
However, those men with ordinary family circumstances and no age to chew can only hesitate to get married or not when their girlfriend asks them to get married. It is not their own the final say, but the woman's the final say. If the woman really insists on a house, then she can only step back! So, many people say that nowadays, many girls are not married to men, but to houses and tickets!
Betrothal gift - marriage cannot be avoided
Throughout history, before getting married, both men and women have discussed together where and how to hold the wedding banquet, how to give the wedding, and how much to give. The ancients believed that a married woman was like a splash of water, and she was a member of her mother-in-law's family. The hard work of raising her daughter for many years in her family would be measured by dowry, as a reward for her years of upbringing.
Everyone knows that getting married requires a dowry, and everyone understands its meaning. However, many couples break up due to the issue of the dowry.
Some female family members feel that raising their daughter has cost them a lot of financial and material resources, so they will charge exorbitant prices for the dowry, making the originally pure love become exorbitant, just like selling their own daughter. Perhaps from the perspective of the elderly, this is unquestionable, but from the perspective of the son-in-law, they are free to love and truly love each other, and want to get married together, rather than buying a wife through money. Is your daughter happy when her son-in-law gives more money?
In front of the priceless dowry, men also stop, sometimes it's not because they can't afford it, but because they're unwilling to give it. If his father-in-law and mother-in-law speak so loudly, it will only make him afraid that his mother's family will endlessly make demands after marriage, becoming a bottomless pit.
Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law - To Live in Harmony with Mother-in-law
When it comes to the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is the most thorny issue in marriage, and many loving couples may fall into a deadlock due to the issue, even ending in divorce.
From the perspective of men, they all hope to find a good daughter-in-law who is as filial to their mother-in-law as themselves and can coexist harmoniously with her. However, the mother-in-law is always dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law, picking bones from the eggs and causing her to suffer a lot of injustice. Men have become like double-sided tape, both sides are difficult to make, and both sides are not human.
Many men, before deciding to get married, try to have their girlfriend and mother together to see if they can coexist harmoniously. If a girlfriend is unable to accommodate their mother, many men will choose their mother over their girlfriend. In traditional Chinese thought, marriage is the order of parents, with the words of a matchmaker. If a man wants to get married, he must obtain the consent of his parents. Moreover, there is only one mother, and if your girlfriend breaks up, you can continue to find a more suitable one.
The above introduction is the psychological bottom line of men's marriage. Marriage is a major event, and it is important to think carefully before marriage. Men have their own bottom line of marriage, and if you want to enter the palace of marriage with them, do not touch their bottom line!