From a psychological perspective, "memory" is the "restoration of traces of excitement left in our cerebral cortex" by life. Life without memories is boring, and the boring of life is often because we are not good at "remembering".
When it comes to the feelings of married life, some couples may think that the other person is no longer as charming as before. In particular, after a fierce conflict, the two sides were even more reluctant to leave each other for a moment. However, once separated for a long time, one can't help but miss the strengths of the other party and the good times they spent together. This subtle ambivalence indicates that there is an emotional foundation between husband and wife, and the memories of past good lives naturally become a bond that connects couples and is difficult to sever.
When it comes to improving interpersonal relationships, it is emphasized to enhance "emotional investment". In fact, the good life that couples have experienced is the "emotional capital" stored in the deep memory of both parties. Unfortunately, many couples only passively recall the good times of the past when there is an emotional crisis between them, which inevitably casts a sad color on "memories in crisis.".
If couples can actively mobilize their "emotional capital" and often reminisce about the beautiful past together, it will help them safely overcome the "emotional lies" that may arise in their married life. For example, using holidays to revisit the beloved "hometown"; Invite a few old friends to gather at home on your wedding anniversary and birthday; In the dead of night, embrace each other and turn over past albums, read treasured love letters, and see the gifts given to each other in love
In a word, in this artistic conception of "seeing things and creating emotions", even a familiar piece of music or a poem you have read can revive the emotional ripples in a couple's peaceful life, bring warm comfort, and fill their married life with sweet feelings.