1、 It's not a good thing for women to care too much about their family. The family belongs to two people and should be managed together
The premise is to think and do it for him and the child. Over time, the responsibility of the family falls entirely on one person. He feels that everything is normal like this. If one day you want him to do something for your family, it will cause resentment.
It's about sharing family responsibilities, gradually shifting the focus to men, helping them out on their own, without having to rely on them, and ultimately getting half exhausted and not pleasing. Household chores are also a part of the burden, otherwise I would really think that household chores are not tiring.
2、 Economic power needs to be mastered, and a sense of prevention is essential
In the past, I used to hear him say that his salary wasn't enough for me, so I didn't want him to have a penny. In the end, he realized that he wouldn't have to support his children anymore because he didn't see this family using too little money. Even in times of crisis, I could borrow money without him, and of course, I didn't need him to repay the money. Anyway, someone in the family provided money, and his own money was just enough to please his mistress.
Even if a man has less money, he must use it together. Although he pays less than he takes away, there must be a known destination. Otherwise, if a woman works hard to save money and support her family, other women over there will spend all their money on you. And in terms of economy, it is inevitable to take precautions, as private money is always available.
3、 Children should be brought together by spouses, and it is not advisable for single mothers in marriage to do so
Most mothers always take care of their children's clothing, food, housing, transportation, and studies, as well as their specialties such as tutoring. Dads spend a lot of time playing the sign of work and socializing, feeling bored and thinking that no one cares at home, so they go outside to find warmth.
Don't forget that he is the father of the child, and it is natural for him to do something for the child. It is better for him to spend more time with the child than with other women.
4、 You must be healthy and beautiful yourself
My body is the capital, so I must take good care of it. In his words, "Take care of yourself. If you're sick, I won't care about you.
Firstly, take good care of your body. Health comes first, and secondly, dress yourself well. If you are beautiful, your mood will naturally improve.
5、 Don't rush if you don't work, but have your own source of income
Whether you have a formal job or not is not the main issue. Of course, having a stable job is the safest. If you don't, you need to learn to invest or something. Anyway, you need to have the ability to support yourself.
Make investments to continue to ensure your independent life, prepare for work, pay attention to potential investment opportunities, and be prepared for potential changes at any time.
6、 I cannot see his various behaviors
Out of sight, out of mind, and unable to change him even if he sees it, it also makes him proud. Look at how excellent a man I am. Women from home and abroad are fighting and fighting, so it's better to please oneself than to please him. As for what he likes, let's do it. Of course, the consequences must be explained to him first, and then don't say we are unjust.
Do whatever you need to do. If you don't take him seriously, you have your id. In the Dream of the Red Chamber, Sister Lin hit the nail on the head with the sentence: Either the east wind overwhelms the west wind, or the west wind overwhelms the east wind. Only when you are no longer willing to be under pressure can you become the master.
7、 Don't worry too much about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
My mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies, this is an old saying. If you can't get along, let's just let them play on their own. There's no need to take any action, no need to deal with it, because once you take action, things get troublesome, just like one person can't sing a play. If you ignore their tricks, they will feel that they have no taste, and instead, there's no need to toss and turn.