Marriage, if not heaven, is hell. The most common form of hellish marriage is violence. It is believed that those who have seen "Don't Talk to Strangers" will be haunted by the domestic violence in it, lamenting the tragic fate of the heroine while praying that "I don't want to encounter this kind of thing.". So, will violence appear in your marital life? Hurry up and take a test.
If you wake up in the middle of the night from a nightmare and find that there is a power outage in your room, which of the following situations do you fear most?
A, under the dim night, there are figures flashing through the window;
B. The door of the room was suddenly opened, and I don't know what happened;
C. Heavy footsteps sounded in the corridor;
D. I heard someone crying plaintively nearby.>> Don't take your lover as a "vent" for unhappiness after marriage
A. You abhor marital violence. At the same time, you have a fear of marital violence and may be an unfortunate victim. You always keep your feelings deep in your heart, and even to the person you love, you don't easily mention them. However, this is not because of your deep personality, but because you are very inferiority complex and difficult to trust anyone. If you want to end your fear, you must try to speak up.
B. Violence is extremely barbaric, uncivilized, or even indecent behavior for you, and you condemn it 100%. You advocate solving family problems in a peaceful way and believe that communication is the most practical way. However, if the other party first uses violence to provoke you, your outburst will frighten the other party silly. Generally speaking, marital violence is extremely unlikely to occur in your life.
In your opinion, violence is just a normal behavior of a wife (husband), and the other party should not care too much. You have ignored the feelings of the other party too much, putting your own interests first. If this continues to develop, when the other party can't bear it anymore, wait to break up the partnership and go our separate ways!
D. Your subconscious has a tendency to crave violence. Perhaps it's because you've been repressed for a long time, or because the other person often makes trouble without reason. In short, you believe that violence is one of the ways to solve the problem. You will use violence as a way to vent your frustrations, but later you will soon regret it and make up your mind not to commit it again. However, it is important to remember that rough play is the most hurtful thing for couples, and it is not easy to try.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)