Post Date December, 03 2023
It is undeniable that there are some men who use their lovers as temporary substitutes in order to satisfy their temporary selfish desires or pursue sensory stimulation, including some moral cheats who play tricks on women; What's more, when the lover endangers his own career and can't get rid of it, he kills to completely remove the obstacles.
However, more married men are struggling in the double dilemma and wandering in the dilemma, which has its social, psychological and moral reasons. It is inevitable to use only ethical standards to make value judgments on them.
First of all, although the society is more tolerant of men's sexual deviance than women's, moral values are still the main yardstick to evaluate personal character. Even in the western developed countries with highly open sexual concepts, private life still controls the official career and future of social celebrities.
Moreover, men always pay more attention to their social roles and career values. Extramarital love is often just a romantic episode in their colorful life. If they can achieve the same beauty and complement each other, they naturally want to have both fish and bear's paws, and do not want to swim out of this enchanting but dangerous whirlpool.
However, in the event of a conflict with fame and career, they often have the right to fight back against the current of interests and bear the pain of parting. Few infatuated men sacrifice their good husband and father's reputation for their lovers, and even bear the charge of violating family ethics to destroy their bright future.
Secondly, although men's sexual values tend to be pluralistic, open and fraternal, they tend to be more rational and realistic than women when making decisive choices. They yearn for romantic and exciting extramarital love, but it is more difficult to give up the down-to-earth and light marital love. The family flower may not be as beautiful and mellow as the wild flower, but it is warm and elegant, and is often more durable and useful; Although lovers can bring ecstatic freshness to themselves, this romantic love is penetrating, but it is too insecure after all.
Moreover, most of the married couples do not have the expected goal of tying the knot with their lovers when they steal the forbidden fruit. Therefore, extramarital love often only adds some happiness and relaxation to their overloaded and tense social roles, and adds some seasonings and embellishments to their standardized monotonous life. When faced with the choice between the two, most of them would rather give up the desperate romantic love, And return to the secular and peaceful reality.
Thirdly, because men may not enter the forbidden zone by mistake in the time of marriage crisis, many people just have poor self-control and "stumble" on impulse, so they are mostly "emotional" rather than "emotional" to extramarital lovers, and less devoted to their feelings. Moreover, in real life, there are far more competent wives than husbands. Most husbands with wives do not lack basic physical and psychological satisfaction in the family, nor lack sweetness and happiness. When they are hot headed at the lover or have no choice but to make a promise of "divorce", they return home to face the reality, and often know that they are guilty because their wives are competent for the family role.
In addition, once the incident happened in the east window, the wife often targeted the third party to forgive her husband, and even moved her husband with double tenderness, which made her husband sweat and regret, so that she repented and "abandoned the old and new". Among them, some husbands are not compatible with their wives' temperament, but because their wives have worked hard and acted as virtuous helpers without much fault, or because their wives have made sacrifices for themselves, and now their status changes, they can't bear to hurt the weak first wives, or because of the pressure of norms, they have no courage to rush out of the marriage wall.
Men tend to be timid in extramarital affairs because of their conscience and responsibility for their wives and children, or succumb to the pressure of secular public opinion. Although they have failed their lovers, this is their rational choice in the dilemma after all.
Men, on the one hand, should be successful in their careers, on the other hand, should take care of their families. Life makes men tired, and their physical health is often ignored. In fact, because of this, men need more care than women, and should pay more attention to their own health!
