Post Date December, 03 2023
It is customary for a male boss to marry a female subordinate, or for a young and beautiful female secretary to marry a successful male boss. On the contrary, it is rare for male subordinates to marry female superiors, and it seems rare for Baigujing to marry Tang monks. And I find that the more successful a man is, the more he keeps a distance from "three high women" who are successful in the same career.
Since ancient times, male mate selection has been a kind of overlooking psychology
Let's review our men first. As mentioned earlier, men appear to be powerful, both gladiators, and have a heroic complex. In fact, they are a wild animal that appears arrogant but has a deep sense of inferiority. They are most afraid of the women around them being superior to themselves. The more capable a woman is and the better the conditions are, the more panicky and helpless a man becomes. His sense of achievement and satisfaction will become a tree without roots, a source without water, and his heroic complex will have nowhere to be released. Because men love face the most and are most afraid of showing their incompetence in front of capable women.
Two professors from the University of Michigan and the University of California, Los Angeles, have conducted research on mate selection among over 300 college students, 120 of whom are male. The researchers observed whether superiority affects the willingness to choose a mate. The sense of superiority here has nothing to do with personality, mainly referring to status and power income. The results showed that most men tend to choose their work assistants when choosing a spouse, while they are less interested in their colleagues and superiors. Women do not particularly consider superiority. Therefore, it is customary for a male boss to marry a female subordinate, or for a young and beautiful female secretary to marry a successful male boss. On the contrary, it is rare for male subordinates to marry female superiors, and it seems rare for Bai Gu Jing to marry Tang Seng (Tang Seng is a man who seems more likely to be taken in by fox spirits in his life). And I find that the more successful a man is, the more he keeps a distance from "three high women" who are successful in the same career.
I know a private business owner with a rich family background and a handsome, handsome, knowledgeable, and reasonable personality. Many young women with master's degrees, female managers, and female bosses are secretly scheming for his ideas, but he has just married a small accounting firm with only a technical secondary school degree, and is nicknamed the "three low wives" (low education, low status, and low income). Once I had dinner with him, I asked him why he was willing to sacrifice high for low. He laughed and calmly summarized the three benefits of marrying a "three low wife" for me:
1、 "The third wife" worships and admires her husband in spirit, and a man can act as a roof pillar at home without being discouraged. "Marrying a strong woman would be unfortunate. People issue orders at work every day, and when they return home, they will definitely dictate. That man will never have a future.".
2、 "Three low wives" have no desires or desires in their careers and come home as soon as they leave work, making them a good wife and mother. But strong women are different. They often socialize outside. Who cares about the family? Men have to be both father and mother, and become "model husbands" at home. "At that time, my friends around me can't help but laugh and say, 'Look, you're not as good as your wife, you're not promising!'"
3、 "Three low wives" have a sense of economic dependence on their husbands, which contributes to the harmony and stability of the family; A strong woman earns more than her husband, has too strong independence and autonomy, and naturally has a high heart. Perhaps one day when the mountains and rivers change color, her husband will be swept out of the house!
The preference of men for "three low wives" is, in the eyes of self-respecting and self-reliant women, tantamount to a completely male chauvinistic ideology. However, from the perspective of the ancient marriage model of strong men and weak women, it seems that it is also commonplace. A man's love for a woman must be based on the fact that the former is strong enough to have an advantage over the latter. This strength and advantage is reflected not only in age, height, physical fitness, but also in power, money, and psychology. If a man feels inferior and constantly sweats in front of his beloved woman, his male desire to conquer cannot be released, resulting in a serious sense of insecurity, and even a dual "impotence" in both physical and psychological aspects, which can never recover.
Therefore, male mate selection has always been a "overlooking psychology": younger than me, shorter than me, lower education background, and lower income than me
As for men, just a little bit of success, please remember one sentence - imperialism and all big men are paper tigers!
And a strong woman, seen from the eyes of a man, is as tall and mysterious as Mount Everest. Although men all want to be gladiators and have a desire to conquer famous mountains and rivers, Everest is too high in altitude and has a harsh climate, making it difficult to climb it, unless you are a member of Everest. But now all Chinese men cherish their lives like gold and are short-sighted. They are still tired of climbing Mount Huangshan and Mount Taishan. Who is willing to spend a lot of energy on an inaccessible peak? This is probably the fundamental reason why most Chinese style strong women make the men around them feel scared and can only fall into an embarrassing situation of being alone and admiring themselves?
(Intern Editor: Zhao Minqing)
