Post Date April, 15 2023
We often hear that many women are faced with career choices, resulting in a choice between family or career? Dream or love? Should you take the path you want, or should someone else set you up?
Recently, I watched a series in full swing, and young girls have different life directions from Plan A and Plan B due to their choices in dreams and love. As she hesitated about which road to choose, she said, "I really want to know the answer before making a decision.". At that moment, I remembered me in my 20s, and I had hesitated like this before.
But my heart knows that if I make this decision, I won't be happy. Being stuck in this dilemma for a long time makes me even less happy. We always hope that our partner will support us, take pride in your achievements, and feel happy for you. However, not every partner is the same. Some partners will prove that this is love based on how much you give up, sacrifice, and do things you don't really want to do for them. But is this the love I want?
After experiencing some hindsight, you will find that sacrifice is not a fulfillment, grievance cannot be exchanged for love, and burning oneself is not necessarily appreciated and cherished. Most importantly, getting married and having children cannot solve the problems that already exist between you.
"I decided to listen to my own inner voice, so I chose Scheme A. I chose my dream, but ultimately I didn't grasp love, and of course it also disappeared.". Over the years, I have seen many women struggling between them. Unmarried and married, they often strive to achieve a balance or make a choice in their career and family, themselves and each other's family.
Interestingly, it is often women who face such choices. For men, it is natural to consider both family and career, and it is also appropriate to have a family as a backup. And women often have to worry about choosing between two.
Some friends who walk in Scheme B will envy the life of Scheme A, but those who walk in Scheme A will also envy what Scheme B has. In fact, everyone is like this, looking at what others have and exclaiming at their own shortcomings, but life is not always about having only good things and not having bad things. If you have advantages, there must be disadvantages, and if you have gains, there must be losses.
There has never been such a thing as perfection, let alone who wins or loses. Life is just a choice.
However, when you choose which path to take, you need to believe in your choice and strive to be the best you can be now. Even if you fail or make the wrong choice, you should have the spirit to start over again and the courage to face risks.
Wrong choice, there is another way to go, who said life is all the way to the end? Like love, if you choose the wrong person, you can leave, marry the wrong person, or divorce. The point is, you need to believe that fate is something you can create and control, rather than fatalistic abandonment of yourself and unwillingness to change.
Walking on the path of Scheme A, I sometimes wonder, if I chose Scheme B, what kind of life would it be now? But will I regret it? Not at all. Because I know that what I choose is the answer from my own heart, and I don't want to deceive myself or turn myself into another person. I have been in love several times and have experienced some experiences. I understand better that true love is not about trying to change others, but about respecting each other's differences, nor about repressing or wronging yourself. It's about being who you are and being appreciated by others.
True love is not denial, but support. I believe more in truly loving someone, not wanting them to lose anything, leaving only the choice of being around you. Instead, you will support and encourage him to fly and dream. You know, even if he has more choices, he will still choose you. And even if his choice is not yours, you will bless him for a better direction.
After watching this series in full swing, I understand better that in fact, love or marriage is choosing a lifestyle that suits you. No one is right or wrong, and no one is good or bad. It's just that you need to find someone who suits you. Some people only want a person who has always compromised and given up. To live for him and his family, being selfless is what he believes to be happiness. Actually, it doesn't make much difference with anyone.
How great do you think love is? In fact, marriage can last for a long time, not because of a vigorous love, but because of a mutually agreed lifestyle. Of course, love is important, but you better understand that reality and life are the killers of love.
But I believe that no matter whether you choose love or dream, you cannot lose yourself, and you must strive to make your own choices, forge ahead, and create a better life. After many years of choosing Scheme A, I also met my life partner. What moved me was that he was a person who supported me, encouraged me, and hoped that I could fly high and far. Our love was based on mutual support and understanding. I finally understood how wonderful it was to be able to love each other and be a partner in my heart and life.
I think this is mature love, different from love when young. Only when you are right can you meet the right person.
Think carefully, every loss in life may also be for what you will gain in the future. "If you fail, you have a chance to make yourself better. The key is that the gains we learn from it are the treasures of our lives.". No matter what plan you choose, you will believe it is the right choice!
No matter which path you choose to take, please remember not to lose yourself and give up on yourself.
Make any choice, be willing, deserve it, and don't regret it. Even if you fail, you still have the courage to change. Can I only choose between love and dream? Life is not really a single choice, you can also choose between them, or you can choose all of the above. Remember, the choice is yours, not someone else.
