Post Date December, 03 2023
You always thought love should be sweet! You never thought that love would become bitter so quickly. The bitterest taste you can taste in that love is waiting.
"You don't have to pay as much as you do to wait for his response, and it's enough as long as you can continue to warm you;"; "You don't have to try as hard as you do to wait for him to pay, but just make you feel like he really used some heart..."
"Even if expectations are so small, your waiting rarely comes true. The most common thing you wait for is when you find new reasons to comfort yourself, and you hear yourself say to yourself, perhaps that's what you're destined to do when you fall in love with someone.".
You admit that you were born to like him, but you forgot to ask if he was also born to like you? Or, in fact, when we begin to taste the bitterness of love, we already know the answer. Then convince yourself that whether love is innate or the day after tomorrow, the final result will still be the same. If you work harder, he will still like you in the end.
It is in that kind of cultivation that we slowly discover that the likes we have earned have their own time limits, and the time limits will become shorter and shorter; "The love you have earned, even if you accumulate more, will not become love in the end.".
It turns out that the harder you try to please someone, the more you gain love from others, the more you lose your love for yourself.
"You were waiting for him to cherish you in that waiting, unlike the rest of the world, and we didn't leave without waiting for it. We would still not cherish ourselves even more because of this.".
In the love that we said to ourselves not to care about fairness, we finally realized that love must begin with fairness. And the fairness of love is actually very simple, is it that you both naturally like each other from the beginning? Is it not forced, is it not every day when you open your eyes, you will want to see each other very much?
That is the truth that love has always been so simple, but it is irrefutable: to like, you will be afraid of losing, to be afraid, you will know how to cherish.
Finally, we thought we had regained our treasure for ourselves, but later we realized that it wasn't really treasure, it was fear. We started to flinch from love, and we started to be cautious. We were afraid that we were clearly in love, but accidentally became a waiting person again.
"We are afraid that when we try so hard and nobly to give love, it becomes so unbearable and cheap because the other person doesn't care.".
Later, how long did it take you to truly understand that it was so illogical and unnecessary for us to fear love for someone who didn't love us, and to grieve for someone who never cared about us.
All your efforts to love and the actions that have left you scarred are right! You just put it on the wrong person.
You finally understand that waiting for someone to like you always ends up waiting for regret. Like a person who also naturally likes you, love is the most relaxed and comfortable thing. The love you met in the past is always complex, and the more complex the love, the harder it is. Only simple love can make people happy.
Therefore, you also learned to set the simplest standard for love: you must be cherished before you love; Instead of loving first, waiting for his treasure.
