Looking at a pair of children, thinking of an unfaithful husband, my heart wrenches like a knife

Q:

My predestination with my husband came from the internet. At that time, QQ was not very popular, and WeChat was not even available. We met in a chat room.

After chatting, I found that the two people were not far away from the city, and we were even half a fellow villager, feeling particularly congenial. I am a woman who believes in fate very much. It was the first time in my life that I felt like I couldn't leave someone alone.

The later development was that I followed him to his city. At first, it was not smooth. His family was not able to accept me because my family was relatively poor, and they looked down on me. However, I was pregnant and had a big stomach until the fifth month, when his family reluctantly admitted that I was the daughter-in-law, acquiesced in him to go with me to obtain a certificate, and the wedding reception was also poorly handled. At that time, I was young and didn't take it seriously. Now when I think about it, it seems that my life has been doomed since I married him.

The next thing to say is my treatment in their family. I haven't had a job for a long time because of having children. When my daughter reaches kindergarten, I don't know what I can do. Moreover, there is no shortage of money in the family. He has never treated me unfairly in material terms.

"I don't know much about the nature of my husband's job. I only know that their family is engaged in business, and their parents-in-law attitude. Over the years, I have used the term" relying on others "to describe it. I always feel that I am an outsider in this family, and they are all guarding me.". Moreover, because the first child was a daughter, his parents-in-law didn't care much about his granddaughter. He actually liked her very much, and didn't pay much attention to her proposal to have another son. Perhaps this is the only hope I can hold on to. My husband is my spiritual pillar.

However, since the opening of the single child policy, my husband's ideas have also changed. He thinks it would be good to add another brother or sister to his daughter. To be honest, I have no independent opinions on this matter. "My child has indeed brought me a lot of comfort over the years. My parent-in-law didn't have a good face towards me. Looking at the child's smiling face, I felt that everything was worth it, so I agreed at that time.".

But now? Not long after I was pregnant with Er Bao, I found out that he had been carrying me on with his female netizens. They didn't break up until the baby was born and my body recovered. "Since I met him, I haven't chatted with other heterosexuals online, but he's different. For more than a decade, he has been following the Internet, such as QQ Drifting Bottle, WeChat, and Momo. In short, he can add strangers' chat tools, and new ones are all on trial for the first time. Although I'm not happy in my heart, he doesn't even pay attention to what I said. He likes to add many unknown people (mostly women) to chat everywhere.".

"If it's just online chatting, I wouldn't care that much, but I've noticed more than once that he secretly met with netizens.". Once, I flew to Qingdao to meet a netizen. He said he was a business friend, but I knew it was a female netizen. I checked their chat content.

This time again, and the female netizen came to us to look for him. He seems to have found a hotel for the female to stay in. I don't know where it is, but I know they often meet.

Although he was at home on Valentine's Day, he couldn't stop chatting with that woman. I also found out that he had transferred 1314 yuan to the woman. He also sent various kisses and love messages, as well as I love you. To me, he didn't even mention Valentine's Day. I'm really devastated. "We have children and women, but my parents-in-law are still dissatisfied with me. Considering his years, he hasn't really cared much about me.". I'm like a fertility machine. Last night, I cried all night, but he went out again and didn't come back. I coaxed my two children to sleep, looked at my own children, and thought of the husband who didn't come home. My heart was wrenched. I think this kind of day is really out of sight. Where is my hope? Where is my way out?

Answer:

Many parties feel that they are going the wrong way until they feel pain, and their great sense of despair and inner loss push them to the other extreme - giving up completely. Either give up on yourself, or give up on your husband, and once that happens, it's the really bad start.

You should know that marriage with an emotional foundation can be cured because two people once had a common life experience, and with a certain amount of guidance and correction, emotions can be awakened.

Letting go is easier than sticking to it, but after letting go, what will life be like? If you are strong enough to cope with the life after letting go, you won't suffer from insomnia and tears. It is the reluctance to part with your existing family that makes you so miserable. In that case, why not try hard? Let your husband come back to you and let your family present the happiness you desire.