Post Date December, 03 2023
More and more women are becoming increasingly confused about how developed a man's language skills used to be, whether it's during the romantic phase or his first marriage. British sociologist Mark found through a survey that a man's daily speech volume is half that of a woman. But men are also mostly used in social circles and work, and chatting and communicating with their loved ones may take less than 15 minutes per day, with a vocabulary of no more than 10%. In fact, there are many ways for men to remain silent, each of which may be the beginning of a heartfelt spiritual conversation. The premise is that you need to know what they really want to say and take corresponding countermeasures.
Use silence to protest against gossip
Women like to establish and strengthen relationships through conversation, while at home they like to show their leadership status and show concern for men through gossip. Men don't think so. No matter how eloquent and articulate they are before marriage, married men are more willing to directly express their specific wishes, such as "I want to go out to dinner with you tonight", "I want to rest", and "I need a meeting".
However, women can't bear it anymore. The more men behave like this, the more women have something to say. Many times, due to women's chatter, the noisy sky at home and outside is no different. Men often appear more rational than women at this time, and when faced with women's gossip, they will not directly refute it - that is undoubtedly throwing a bomb at home; He wouldn't scold roughly either - it would undoubtedly be a trapped animal fighting with half the effort.
Many men are accustomed to choosing silence. On the one hand, they use silence to express their emotions, thoughts, and attitudes at the time, and on the other hand, they intentionally use silence to maintain a distance between each other, which can cause women to feel particularly hurt. Women often say 'they have no emotions, they are simply cold blooded', which is actually a misunderstanding. Married men are more accustomed to communicating their emotions and admiration with their hearts. The more a woman talks, the farther away a man will be from you. Although he is silent, a "protective wall" has been erected in his heart.
Using silence to regulate the body and mind
Boys have received "backbone" education from a young age, such as conquering the world, standing tall, and taking responsibility. When they grow up, no matter how helpless exhaustion they face, how difficult setbacks they face, how cruel blows they face, how heavy a burden they bear, how enormous a pressure they face... They cannot be released through crying, washed away through tears, or vented through confidences like women.
The only thing they can do is remain silent. Reflect in silence, recuperate in silence, gather momentum in silence, lick wounds in silence.
Therefore, when a man drags his heavy footsteps back home, sits on the sofa without saying a word, or turns a deaf ear to your words, you must not dictate, make trouble, fantasize, or even ask for advice. Perhaps he has just finished a conversation with a client and is exhausted, or he is facing setbacks in his life and career, feeling hurt, exhausted, and exhausted. At this moment, his silence was for the purpose of recuperation, and he gained new life in silence. At this point, you might as well give him an hour to say "goodbye" to his daytime work completely, and he may show amazing interest in any of your questions afterwards.
A special reminder here is that when a man is physically and mentally tired, if he is still interested in watching TV, do not turn off the TV while he is watching news broadcasts, and then say with concern, "If you are tired, rest early. What else are you watching TV?" It should be noted that career oriented men are mostly concerned about politics, and your "care and care" can only backfire. But you can insert some comfort words in the gaps of the advertising program.
Use silence to strategize
You often find the man you are familiar with, talking and laughing, suddenly silent; It was hot and noisy at home, but he sat on the sofa in a daze; You passionately threw a string of words at him, and he was unconscious.
In fact, at this moment, silence and daze are just the appearance of a man's expression. Perhaps his mind is thinking of some strange idea, or thinking about some strange problem, or something has triggered his inspiration. When he entered a state of silent contemplation, it was a state similar to 'closed cultivation'.
They do not want anyone to pull him out of his state of contemplation, let alone someone to interrupt or disturb him in silence for 'cultivation'. If at this point, you can't help but be curious, impulsive, or concerned, and ask him one question or another, such as, what are you thinking and say that I can help you advise? Or do you have anything to say? Did you hear my question? It's like asking for trouble.
In the eyes of men, all concerned, thoughtful, kind, and curious questions at this moment are like buzzing flies, disturbing the tranquility. At this point, you might as well become a silent attendant. The relaxed atmosphere you provide in a timely manner will not only greatly shorten his silence time, but also make him grateful to you.
Using Silence to Treasure Privacy
Sometimes, men will make up a lie in an emergency, and sometimes they will try their best to conceal something, such as drinking a few bottles of beer the night before yesterday, having an affair on a business trip, just getting an extra bonus, and so on. The man's assumption is that as long as they don't say it and the woman doesn't realize it, everything will be very simple. Sometimes, a man's silence is another form of concealment. He may think that women are too authoritarian, interfering with his freedom and rights, and she may even authoritatively arrange his daily life. So, in order to prevent a woman from breaking the sand pot and asking the truth, and to prevent her from having transparent control and supervision over him, he chose to remain silent. Without any trace of pursuit, his world can be much quieter.
If there are any taboo issues in the communication between husband and wife, there is a possibility of emotional crisis between them. For example, when you repeatedly discuss recent issues of sexual desire, emotional apathy, loyalty, bonuses, and so on with him, he feels like a mirror in his heart. He knows that saying too much can lead to losing, but he knows better not to express this aversion, and his expression should not be revealed. Therefore, he uses silence to prevent danger.
Men are always very careful and try to avoid exposing their weaknesses as much as possible, especially in crisis situations where men are extremely self enclosed. If a woman keeps nagging at this time, a man will be even more angry. For sensitive topics such as past relationships and sex, men often remain silent out of goodwill because they also need a sense of security, hope for security, and dream of showcasing their most perfect selves in front of women.
Men need to disguise themselves
Meanwhile, male psychology researchers point out that men's world is full of competition, which requires distance, masks, and calculation. The survival of men faces cruel challenges that women cannot imagine, and loneliness is inevitable.
And women will feel that there must be many secrets hidden in a man's heart, so curiosity continues to advance the depth of exploration.
But to make a man open his heart in silence, the first thing is to give him a sense of security, that is, you will not take advantage of his weaknesses at any time. You can use the passion of women to comfort him. You can also quietly listen to his narration, objectively evaluate as much as possible, and seek solutions together with him.
In fact, men always have a potential tendency towards arrogance. As long as they have a sufficient audience, they will appear extremely charming, talkative, and full of interest. So, if you want to ease each other's frozen atmosphere, you can consider going to a bar or tea house with him. Because there, he can find the public that excites him. Alternatively, you can do something with someone else, such as watching TV or shopping together. When he realizes that his rightful position is under threat, he will definitely come to you to break the deadlock.
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)
