Post Date December, 03 2023
After getting married, I have read many marriage stories and seriously discovered that two people can be happy together and stay together for a long time. The most important basis for managing a happy marriage is whether you have common goals, ideas, and similar values and lifestyle. Many friends also say that it is important for couples to share common interests and topics.
Seeing many emotional divorces is not necessarily due to an affair, but rather to the unhappiness of two people getting along. Many emotions are consumed by daily chores, minor friction, and even life habits and family relationships. If there are significant differences in the values of two people, falling in love may be attracted by the differences, but when it comes to getting along, differences can be the biggest killer.
"Life forms and values are things that are difficult to change. I think this is the" modern version of a family match. "You need to find someone who can live and manage your marriage together. If you are similar to your life forms and values, you will have similar ideas and goals to" manage "your marriage.".
"I think it is important to understand whether the lifestyle and values of both families are similar or compatible before marriage in order to avoid being unhappy due to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law issues or family factors after marriage.". Many people think that being together is a matter of two people and has nothing to do with their family, but after marriage, they realize that it can be a big problem for their family to get along well.
Moreover, observing the interaction between your significant other and their families, as well as their interactions with each other, can also be understood, which may be a reflection of your future life. If his family does not respect each other, you may also be treated with disrespect in the future. Many problems are not that after getting married, they will naturally improve, and the boat will go straight to the bridge, but that there will be more problems.
Values cover a wide range of values, such as money values, educational values (if there are children), ideas and perspectives, as well as the sense of responsibility and loyalty that I believe are most important. Many couples will argue over money (not whether there is money, but rather the planning of money), or whether both of them can work together in parenting (or whether they feel that it is their mother's responsibility), and whether their attitudes towards money such as home and work are consistent (not respecting your work, or not respecting the efforts of a full-time mother), There is also the resistance of modern society to temptation (usually, if many of his friends go to hotels to play and have a mistress, he will also fall in love with others, because this is the value of his circle of friends, and don't assume that he will get dirty without getting infected).
Whether a person has a sense of responsibility can be seen from his attitude towards using money (does he have a plan for managing or saving money?), his attitude towards work, and his attitude towards his family. You shouldn't think that getting married and having a child can make a irresponsible person suddenly turn sexual. Usually, you have to shoulder the responsibility yourself. Many divorcees encounter a spouse who has no sense of responsibility or family values, so they have to take care of their own children, and even endure unhappy marriages and lives for their children.
In fact, when two people are together, it's not about being high or low. Relying on yourself to attach to an object or family that you don't have anywhere near, or forcing yourself to be low on someone who will drag you down and hurt you, will ultimately lead to imbalance. Perhaps you will feel that "being single is actually better than getting married.".
It is also difficult for two people to walk for a long time without achieving a happy balance or a consistent pace. Love is not so great, it is great enough to overcome all problems. Marriage is not a panacea, as long as you get married, the problem will be solved automatically. Only by finding someone who truly suits you can you be a happy couple.
