Post Date December, 02 2023
My husband and I used to open a factory. He stopped living at home in April last year. He said that the factory needs a lot of work to do when it just opened. In addition to staying at home for more than ten days during the Spring Festival, the rest of the time has been in the house we rented.
One day in September this year, he fell asleep while playing with his mobile phone. I wanted to stop the movie playing on his mobile phone for him, and then curiosity prompted me to check his mobile phone. It doesn't matter. I saw his ambiguous words with a strange woman in WeChat. I woke him up and questioned him. He told me it was just because of loneliness.
Since we opened this factory, our husband and wife have done too little of that kind of thing. No matter when I asked him several times when he lived at home, he always perfunctory me with various reasons.
I forgot to tell you that he also needs to deliver goods once a day. Now I think he has changed his mind. When I quarreled with me, he would stop crying and comfort me. Now he quarrels with me and I cry again. He will continue to quarrel even seriously. I want to ask if he has really changed his mind? When I say that I feel bad, he will only say that I can take some medicine. There is no extra care. Is it necessary for me to stick to this marriage?
reply:
If you didn't look at your husband's mobile phone driven by curiosity and found him chatting with other women unexpectedly, would you think that there are some problems between your husband and wife? That is to say, the abnormal sexual life of husband and wife, your husband's inattention to you, and starting to ignore the damage he caused you after quarrelling with you should have been paid early attention to. In fact, the appearance of these problems is a sign that your relationship between husband and wife is going to be alienated. Can you find it now?
It can be said that as long as your husband didn't want to live at home, but chose to live in the factory, it already showed that he began to be tired of being with you. Or maybe he did so because now he has a good life, a little money, and began to be suspicious, so he began to have a misguided mind and moved outside to create convenience and conditions for himself.
His heart is getting away from you. It may not be a day or two. As for him, chatting with WeChat is out of loneliness and truth, but it is also an excuse. Just imagine, how could he not be lonely if he lived alone in the factory for a long time without going home? But he knew that it would be lonely to live alone in the factory and still did so. He said that he was dealing with things in the factory. But what he did was not an excuse? If things in the factory are so busy, how can you have the leisure to chat with other women? In addition, can you chat with the opposite sex when you are lonely? What kind of shit is this! Isn't he just talking about sex? Isn't his ultimate goal to engage in extramarital affairs and extramarital sex?
Of course, why did he fall to this stage? As his wife, you also need to reflect on your own problems and responsibilities. Most of the time, the problems may not be caused by one person. Maybe you also have shortcomings that need to be corrected. You ask me if he has changed his mind. To tell the truth, I can't answer you for your husband, because only he knows best. In fact, your husband's behaviors and practices are already the best answer, and you can make a judgment if you think carefully.
As for your question, is it necessary for me to persist in this marriage? First of all, you should ask your heart. If you think you can't persist, that is, you can't persist. Respect for your inner truth is the important basis for making a choice. However, I think it is better to have a final fight when making a final decision. After all, your problem has not evolved as serious as you think. In addition, with reference to his clear attitude and specific actions after the event, if he has the heart of repentance and repentance, then it is still necessary to continue the marriage, do you think?
