Post Date December, 03 2023
Times are slowly changing, and more and more people think that they don't need to get married. I don't think there is anything wrong with being single, nor do I think marriage is necessary to live in this era, but many people can say that being single is also good, who needs a man at the same time, or loudly say that I just don't want to make up, just with a person.
Maybe people like me who have been suffering from being single for a long time may have such harsh thoughts, but really, how many people can choose to be single? There are more and more single people in this generation. In fact, the reason is that people want more and more things, but their ability to maintain relationships or socialize is getting worse. Let's first define what it means to choose singleness. Choosing singleness, as the name implies, is my choice. It means that I can not be single, but not with people I don't want.
If I can choose not to be single but only the people I don't want, is that still called the real choice?
It can also be good to be single. The concept behind the sentence "who needs a man" means that being single can't be very good, but if you really believe that being single is good, nine out of ten will not shout out loud. These loud announcements are actually just convincing yourself.
Just like those of us who drink water every day, we don't think that drinking water is a very precious thing. It is just for granted. No one will talk about what is for granted. Women don't need men at all. Except for the years when we were born, we might die if we were not taken care of by others. In fact, no one of us survived successfully.
Many people will have a question after our class, since we have the ability to satisfy ourselves, why do we still make boyfriend and girlfriend, but who said that two people must have needs to be together? Two people who have the ability to make themselves happy and satisfied are together.
Couples who need each other, in most cases, are only consuming each other. The two people who need each other have no ability to give and only want to ask. Finally, they can only end the round with no feeling, tired and weak.
Both single and two people have different happiness and hardship. Only when the two choices are completely equal, no choice is more attractive. Maybe we can call it single or together.
However, many people will take the self-comfort of being single to ignore the possibility that they may not be able to make the object they want also want themselves.
Or because you have a partner, try to assimilate (attack) or persuade single people to settle down as soon as possible. Many arguments may be about what to do when you get old. These people are likely to have partners because they have their current partners because of age, pressure of life, and social perception. Is it really making their life happier? Maybe only that person knows.
However, people who are really satisfied with life rarely want to assimilate others, because life's ups and downs. Only when they understand that everything is equal and nothing is absolute can they find satisfaction and gratitude in the impermanent life.
I promise to take care of you when I have children? Do you promise to live together with your other half? If even the perception of life's impermanence is weak, and the other half, children and family are regarded as security, or even as floating wood in the ocean of life that cannot be self-sufficient and empty, then no matter who it is, it will be very hard to be with such people.
So do you choose to be single or have to be single? Do you choose to be with someone, or do you have to be with someone?
