There is a difference of 29 years between Lu Xun and Xu Guangping, who is 18 years younger than him, Liang Shiqiu, and Han Jingqing, who is nearly 30 years younger than him, Li Ao, and his current wife "Xiaotun". Jin Yong also married his current wives Lin Leyi, Liang Jinsong, and Fu Mingxia, who are 26 years younger than him. It was also announced yesterday that the 57 year old famous lyricist Li Kuncheng will marry Lin Jing'en, who is 40 years younger than him and his friend's daughter
The reason why chronophilia are popular is that there are three happiness points in such relationships. The first point of happiness is to fulfill the desire of women for a "trinity". Generally, prince charming, a female dream, combines the maturity of his father, the care of his brother and the vitality of his friends. And the husband is older, psychologically more mature, and emotionally more comfortable to give; The second point of happiness is that older husbands usually have a certain economic foundation, which reduces the likelihood of disputes arising from economic reasons; The third happiness point is that there is less competition in the family. As the husband grows older, women naturally develop a sense of dependence and obedience, reducing competition for power between spouses and reducing friction.
So, many people will say, 'Old cows eat tender grass, and there is really a lot of happiness.'. But I don't agree with this. It is possible for the two parties in a relationship to have a difference in age, but if the age difference is too large, the likelihood of misfortune is very high, ranging from the differences in lifestyle habits and love for quiet and dynamic between "old" men and "young" women (the so-called generation gap); Elderly tendency to control; The degree of harmony in sexual life; To the extent of suspicion of motivation (men are worried that women are for their own money, and women are worried that if men get sick, they will use themselves as caregivers).
For a young girl who has not experienced worldly affairs, take her through the prosperity of the world; For a woman who can see through the warmth and coldness of the world, take her on a carousel. For a pure and innocent old man like Li Kuncheng who has gone through the vicissitudes but remains ignorant and innocent, give him a "demon" to recover him. Therefore, among the chronophilia, the old men fall in love with, but they are very silly and naive; What little women crave is nothing but vicissitudes and prosperity. Now they hit it off at once, what about in the future? As the woman gradually enters society and relies on the man to provide a platform for better development, she will have more desires in terms of mental and physical aspects after seeing more of the world. Ultimately, a large number of film and television works have taught us that young women are always the easiest person to cheat.
Men are born with a desire to conquer and show off. Faced with mature women, there may be a bit of fear to some extent, because they are afraid of being overwhelmed and losing their male sense of authority. And the little girl is innocent, she has not yet learned to question, and she has not yet fully developed her self-awareness. She is just a cup of pure water, you can "brew" her into tea or "brew" her into coffee; She is just a piece of white paper, you can draw flowers or write words. You are her lover and also her mentor. Many old men particularly enjoy this sense of achievement and conquest.
Since ancient times, it is only when cows eat tender grass that they feel relished, and when old trees sprout new buds, they appear vibrant and vibrant. Ah Ge cares about Ah Mei, and it is only when Ah Mei secretly falls in love with Ah Ge that they appear to complement each other. The old beast fell in love with the female student, who married the old beast. The night falls in love with the day, the stars fall in love with the moon... Even the Chinese urban management is powerless in this emotional world of "dirty, messy, and bad".
I always feel that this kind of marriage is out of place. On the one hand, I feel 'old and not serious', and on the other hand, I feel' less coquettish '. If you dare to marry me, I will marry you. "The old men who spoke wildly were admirable, but after the hormones had subsided, they still had to remain calm. What does marriage require? It requires stability, how can it be stable? A high degree of matching between two individuals will result in stability. Age is definitely one of the matching factors. If everyone has the same age and vitality, they can have active sexual activity to maintain normal reproduction of their offspring, or they do not need active sexual activity to make everyone feel at ease. If one is of the same age, has the same level of maturity in thinking, and has experienced the same era, there will be more psychological resonance.
For a young woman, have you ever thought about why, at a young age, you always fall in love with an old man who can almost be your father or even your grandfather? Do you really love him, or does his appearance satisfy a certain inner desire? Do you really admire him, or do you subconsciously need a sense of security as compensation?
I also really want to know about those old men. When you're nearing your 60s and a woman is only thirty years old, how do you adjust your mindset? A rebellious marriage is the most difficult to find a suitable soil for survival, especially in places like China where things are changing rapidly. Ten years is an era. Although we all love to hear stories from our grandparents, there is always a day when stories are told. After the story is told, it is still important to wash and sleep. The people who wash and sleep are all covered in goosebumps, and life is not easy. We all say that marriage should grow old together, and the central idea is to grow old together. The age difference is too large, either absurd or playing hooligans.