Post Date December, 03 2023
In married life, many family conflicts are related to the factor of "improper handling of kinship". If both spouses can handle the relationship with each other's family members or relatives properly, it will greatly reduce conflicts between spouses due to issues such as support and reception.
After graduating from college, a top student from the countryside, Li Xuan, found his own value in life in a large enterprise in Beijing. He worked in that company for less than three years, and was promoted from a young employee to the senior management level of the company. At the age of 27, Li Xuan is the youngest executive in the history of this company. Almost everyone who can achieve this position is around 40 years old. Li Xuan's exceptional promotion is not entirely dependent on his personal talent, and among them, the company's chairman has given him a "new perspective" - his future son-in-law.
A year later, after passing various tests of the chairman, he successfully married Liu Shan, the chairman's daughter. Liu Shan did like Li Xuan's talent and handsome appearance, but she was regarded as a daughter since childhood, but after marriage, she had conflicts with him.
Liu Shan dislikes so many poor relatives in Li Xuan's family, and she asks Li Xuan to sever ties with those relatives who come to borrow money every few days or two. Moreover, whenever Li Shan's relatives come to his house, as long as Liu Shan is at home, she will definitely lose her temper in person.
After a long time, Li Shan couldn't resist his wife's impolite behavior. The embarrassed expressions of his relatives and his stripped naked face finally erupted one day after their relatives left. He started hitting Liu Shan and slapped her several times. Liu Shan burst out of the door in tears in surprise
"We can imagine the outcome of the incident. In the chairman's mind, it is absolutely not allowed for the baby daughter to be bullied.". Li Xuan was dismissed from all positions in the company the next day, and his marriage to Liu Shan came to an end.
In the above case, Liu Shan's psychological state is obvious. She almost only has a favorable impression on her husband himself, but she has forgotten that his husband is not just an individual person, he also has more social relationships. To love someone, we need to understand that while loving them, we also need to respect their social relationships. We can't be like Liu Shan, who has a rejection mentality towards everything except her husband.
In marriage, improper handling of kinship can first harm the self-esteem of one party, which often leads to the breakdown of both parties' feelings. Therefore, couples should treat each other as "your relatives as my relatives", respect and be polite to each other, and only in this way can the relationship in marriage be more harmonious.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
