Post Date December, 03 2023
"If both parties have inconsistent attitudes towards money, once they become entangled in the issue of money, their relationship will inevitably be affected.". In general, couples should understand that the family's economic situation should be within their means and used reasonably.
Chen Wei and Liu Qian are a "80" young couple wandering in Beijing. Chen Wei, who works in IT, currently earns around 8000 a month. His wife, Liu Qian, is a small white-collar worker with a monthly salary of 5000. Although it is said that two people are relatively objective in terms of income, after all, they have not been working for a long time, and naturally have not saved much in their hands. Liu Qian was a girl who spent a lot of money when she was young. When she saw a new mobile phone, she was about to buy it. When she saw a good bag and beautiful clothes, she couldn't help but take them.
Chen Wei's heart aches when he sees it in his eyes. He is a college student from the countryside, and spending money for him is basically about saving as much as you can. In fact, Chen Wei has another reason for doing this. He wants to buy a house in Beijing in the future, and if he wants to spend money, he will spend it on the cutting edge.
Whenever his wife buys a lot of luxury goods, Chen Wei becomes angry and gets angry with each other. A quarrel ensues. Liu Qian, who pursues fashion, believes that she has nothing wrong, while Chen Wei, who is diligent and frugal, is greatly dissatisfied with this.
In this way, a rift gradually emerged in the quarrel between the two people. Liu Qian continued to buy various things with her own money, and her 5000 yuan salary was almost empty handed at the end of each month. Chen Wei did not give her any more money except for the rent for two people
A few months later, they were just getting married, and they were heading towards divorce.
In the above case, the divorce between Chen Wei and Liu Qian was essentially caused by the different attitudes of the two people towards using money. The two sides have inconsistent attitudes towards money, with the husband being stingy and thrifty in spending money, and the wife pursuing a high consumption lifestyle; "Couples are beginning to have conflicting opinions on the issue of money, which has led to the breakdown of their relationship, and the further development of their relationship is even more elusive.".
The issue of family economic income often affects the feelings between couples and becomes the fuse of marital conflict. This is not a matter of more money than less money. It mainly depends on the attitude towards money and how to arrange it. If a husband and wife find that they have differences of opinion on the use of money, what they should do should not be mutual anger, but rather communication. Both parties should find out the reasons for each other's different attitudes towards using money in their communication, and with mutual understanding, they should accommodate each other a bit, and jointly find a "way to use money" suitable for both people.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
