Many middle-aged and elderly couples suspect each other of infidelity, as it is inevitable that their relationship weakens over time, which greatly increases the likelihood of each other's infidelity. When couples become speechless, husbands become lazier, wives become more verbose, and they always use excuses to avoid each other. Any harmless words can easily lead to arguments, and when they hear the other person saying that they are all flawed, without praise, or even rejecting sexual activity, middle-aged couples need to be vigilant, as extramarital affairs may have already arrived.
So when emotions turn sour, how can we protect our marriage from being attacked by extramarital affairs?
The saying goes that flies do not bite seamless eggs, so we should take good care of our marriage and take preventive measures. Couples should always pay attention to mutual understanding and tolerance towards each other. When a man is under great pressure at work, he likes to be quiet when he comes home. Women should create a warm and comfortable atmosphere for him, while women work hard for their families every day. When a man comes back, he should chat with women no matter how tired he is. Women in marriage must know how to move forward and backward, understand how to handle things, speak politely, and be filial to the man's parents. They should not be too different from their own parents, which may cause dissatisfaction from the man. It's best to occasionally allow a man to feel a sense of existence, pretend to be weak, and let him experience the joy of being needed. Men should also often praise and praise women. In fact, women, like men, expect to be appreciated and recognized, but men often overlook this point.
If our marriage has already encountered an affair, the first thing we need to do is self public relations, regulate our mentality, and not allow ourselves to be immersed in strong feelings of frustration and anger. It is unreasonable to let our thoughts be worthless or intense revenge, go to the other party's workplace to cause them to be ruined, or beat their mistresses on the street. Not only can we not save our marriage, but we also push them further, So don't ruin your happiness for the rest of your life just because of a moment of anger.
The second thing is to actively seek help from family and friends, but it is important to note that the opinions of family and friends have their own limitations and often stand on their own side, unable to objectively view the problem. So it's best to seek help from professionals. However, due to the traditional concept of not showing off one's family shame, we are usually unwilling to tell unfamiliar people about our "family affairs". In fact, marital crisis is something that no one wants to happen, let alone imagined. Everyone's marriage will have various problems, and we should not be ashamed of it. We must encourage ourselves to face these things correctly.
The third thing is to quickly and rationally evaluate the crisis, analyze the marital problems reflected in different crises, distinguish the severity of the problems, and work together to solve the problems.
Then the two people put themselves in a different position and think from each other's perspective. Why did they have differences on this issue, and whether it was due to differences in their growth experiences, values, and lifestyle habits that led to these differences? Try to tolerate and understand each other. Do these things, and ultimately you will regain happiness.