Post Date December, 03 2023
Recently, a friend who has been married for nearly 10 years told me that she felt very anxious recently. She had to keep busy to feel a little relieved, because once she stopped, she would listen to the silence of the whole room and look at the pots and pans in the kitchen, and feel flustered.
Many people are like my friends. They are clearly in the relationship of marriage, but they seem more lonely.
My friends will ask themselves why this is the case. Since when has life been a journey back and forth between work and family? At sunrise and sunset, then watch TV, wash and wash... One day has passed. In such ordinary days, we are far away from our partners, and we are about to become familiar strangers. When she tried to analyze the problems in her marriage in such a negative mood, she not only failed to find the answer, but also began to resent her partner. She would say that if her partner had not been so indifferent to her, how could her life have become so. Then I let her go home and directly asked her husband why you are so indifferent to me. The answer she got was that you are also indifferent to me.
How ironic it is that we are clearly in love with each other, but we all think it is the other's cold silence. So when two people who both think that their partners treat them coldly and question each other, we can hear the voice from the bottom of each other's heart: If you have a heart, how can I be heartless? I all thought it was the other side's indifference that made the marriage so bleak, but in fact, we are the common killers.
Then, as a husband and wife, why are they indifferent to each other? We all know that indifference is the most lethal of all the marriage problems that make us feel cold, helpless and taboo when we think about it, but we all do it unintentionally. The damage to marriage from the outside world can be quickly recovered in mutual understanding; The damage to marriage caused by noise can also be reduced through multiple communication. Only the indifference without communication, quarrel, care and attention can only increase the gap if time cannot fill the gap.
On the anatomy of the monster "husband and wife apathy", we can't see love and heartache, nor pay, care, and appreciate each other. "Sorrow is no greater than death of heart". Even if the relationship is too cold to melt the ice, it is the cruelest punishment for the husband and wife. So since we love each other so much, tell each other, or we will fall into the misunderstanding of "if you are careless, I will stop".
So, don't put forward the argument of the last century, saying that marriage life is a reality, not a romantic imagination, just like no matter how hot the water is, there will be a cooling moment. Gradually, you should get used to it. This is the plain life. There are almost no waves, no waves, and it is also beautiful. True love is so plain. In fact, no one has to endure the life that disappoints him. When two people in love are together, they should work together to create a life that they love each other. "Every day is romantic, every day is passionate, no one will laugh at you, and everyone envies you".
Timely update your marriage concept, carefully manage your marriage, and maintain communication. You will find your marriage. Obviously, you also have feelings, and he/she also has feelings.
