I was born into a poor family, with a younger brother who went to high school and two older sisters. My older sister is already far away and occasionally comes back to visit us. My parents make a living by farming and doing odd jobs in nearby factories. I dropped out of high school and went out to work. With a low level of education, my job was always facing challenges. I gritted my teeth and persisted, saving myself the cost of marrying a wife.
On our side, it's really difficult for the two brothers to marry a wife, unless you're a girl from another place who's looking for a relationship. My job is special, I do decoration work and rarely come into contact with girls. I will be in my thirties soon, and my parents are also disappointed if I can't get a wife. They are asking matchmakers everywhere to help me lead the red line. Later, after several twists and turns, I met my current wife Meng Xia (pseudonym) through blind dates. I was one year younger and never married, but there were rumors outside that she had given birth during her working life, which made me feel a bit uncomfortable.
The female side has low demands, and my parents urgently want me to get married. They feel that if I don't make a decision quickly, I will be taken away by others. I have resentment in my heart and feel that my parents are not considering me, but in my situation, perhaps I can only choose this way. I bravely agreed to this marriage, which was simple and simple, and didn't cost much money. In her first year of marriage, Meng Xia successfully conceived a baby, which was also a comfort to me. No matter how she used to be, at least she gave me another child.
During her pregnancy, I couldn't walk far and worked as a temporary worker in a small factory near my home to earn some pocket money. After the child was born, expenses suddenly increased. My wife's milk is not enough to eat, the milk powder is too cheap to let the children eat, a bucket of milk powder costs hundreds, and there is money for diapers. It finally made me realize why many men who become fathers talk about earning money from milk powder all day. I proposed to continue working outside, earn more money to support the family, and let my wife take care of the children at home, and she also agreed.
I have been away for three years, and I have been home no more than three times a year. My wife lives with my parents and younger brother. My younger brother was admitted to college, and all the expenses were borne by my parents. My wife's heart is unbalanced, thinking that she is also a son. Why do I have to go out to work? My parents' money subsidizes my younger son. She started calling me to complain, and I advised her not to haggle over every detail. Her younger brother is in school and cannot make money. It will be better if he works in a few years.
Although she didn't say much, I could feel that she was in a bad mood and never mentioned it again. She also called me less frequently, and I'm not sure what she thinks. A while ago, I called my mother to inquire about the situation at home. She hesitated and said, 'The house is fine, everything is fine, the child and daughter-in-law are all fine. If I'm not busy with work, it's best to come back.'. She seems to be hiding something, which makes me very depressed.
I just finished my work here and didn't take on any new work. I took a leave and went home to visit my family. After returning home, I found that my wife was no longer there and my mother was taking care of the children. I asked what the situation was, and my mother said that my wife would come to her mother's house and asked me to pick her up. I'm puzzled, how can the child stay at home when they return to their mother's house? My mother specifically instructed me, "When you arrive at your mother-in-law's house, don't talk nonsense and choose what sounds good." I nodded and took the gift to her mother-in-law's house.
Just as I entered the door, I was blocked at the entrance. My mother-in-law pinched my waist with one hand and cursed me with one finger, "You still have the face. Every day, you wear the same pants as your mother and bully my Mengqi. If you make two stinky money, you'll have to pay for it..." I didn't know what the situation was, and I was filled with anger. Call my wife and ask her to come out. Unexpectedly, she just said 'divorce' on the phone and hung me up.
I was cursed and disoriented, running home to ask my mother what was the situation. My mother couldn't help crying for a moment and said, "This daughter-in-law thinks I'm biased towards your brother, making trouble with me and asking for money to spend. Can you tell me how short she is of money when your brother is at school and you remit money to her every month? I reasoned with her, but she didn't listen and even called her mother over to argue with me. I didn't tell you that I was afraid it would affect your work. A few days ago, I heard someone say that she was out and in with a man with a small car.
I was dumbfounded. When I married her, I didn't know much about her. I didn't expect her to be such a worry free person. Every month, I frugally gave her money to spend, but she was so sharp, unreasonable, and even used cheating to repay me. I called her and it turned off, so I went to their house to find her. The door was locked tightly. I'm holding my breath. What should I do with this marriage?
Couples have been separated from each other for many years, and the issues of time and distance have deepened the gap between you. Your wife doesn't like your mother and spends the money she earns on her children, feeling like she's losing money. However, you advise her not to be stingy, as your brother has no financial means and can only rely on family expenses at present. Your idea is right, but if you think about it in your wife's mind, she will think that you are the family and I am just an outsider who has been married.
You cannot understand her thoughts, and with her prolonged loneliness and emptiness, her life circle is gradually influenced by other men, which makes it easy to be moved and show signs of infidelity. Now that she treats you like a missing person, it shows that she has made up her mind. If you want to continue your marriage, at this moment, you cannot lose control. Family harmony is more important than anything else. Find ways to transfer jobs and try to be as close as possible to take care of your family.
Find her person, personally ask her thoughts, and if it's just a contradiction, find a way to resolve it; If she really changes her heart, there's no need to keep her, it's not sweet to force a change.