Post Date December, 03 2023
My boyfriend and I met when we were in college. Both of us are from other places, and we are far away. At that time, I considered this issue and still decided to stay with my boyfriend. I cared too much about him and couldn't help it. "His obstruction has not shaken me. In addition, I have the support of my father. My father said that as long as my daughter is happy, he has no opinion where she will marry. I know that my father loves me, so I cherish this relationship very much.".
My boyfriend has excellent academic performance and can receive scholarships every semester in college. Although I am jealous, my boyfriend is so excellent, and my heart is also beautiful. My boyfriend also uses his spare time to do part-time jobs to earn living expenses. I know that his family is in a bad situation, so I rarely ask him to buy me gifts. However, he understands my heart and every time I celebrate my birthday or Valentine's Day, he will give me unexpected surprises. My boyfriend's thoughtfulness has moved me to tears again and again. "I've been dating for over three years, and my boyfriend takes good care of me. I also rely heavily on him, but I've never met his parents.".
My boyfriend's hometown is in the countryside, and his parents are farmers. They earn their living by farming every year, and they also support him to go to college. It's not easy to hear. Every time I think of such great parents, I want to visit them. This year is the last year of college for my boyfriend and I. As the Chinese New Year approached, my boyfriend and I discussed going home to meet my parents. I was extremely excited and agreed without even thinking about it. My boyfriend said that their family is biased and there are many people coming home during the Spring Festival, so I'm worried that I won't adapt. "But the thought of meeting my future father-in-law and seeing the place where my boyfriend grew up as a child makes me so excited that I can't even consider these external factors.".
But the result was not as beautiful as I thought. On the way to my boyfriend's house, we bumped all the way for five hours, finally arrived at the county seat, and then changed buses. The smell inside the bus made me feel sick. In addition, during the Spring Festival, it was difficult to walk on the snowy road. I walked and stopped all the way, never feeling carsick. I vomited in the car, and my boyfriend looked at my luggage while taking care of me. After getting off the car, I feel particularly uncomfortable, and I may also be acclimatized to this aspect. Seeing a doctor at my boyfriend's house is a difficult task, and I have to go to the county town. I stayed at their house for two days, but my body was very uncomfortable, so I had no choice but to take a car and destroy my own home. "It's not easy for my boyfriend to go home, and I didn't ask him to deliver, so I went back to my own home alone.". Before leaving, his parents prepared many specialties for me to bring back, and I felt the enthusiasm, simplicity, and kindness of his parents.
After returning home, I have been thinking about my boyfriend's family conditions. I originally thought that as long as two people fall in love, other difficulties are not difficult. "My boyfriend's parents must have suffered a lot by dragging him so hard, all for the sake of their own children.". "But this kind of pain is something I have never tried before, and I began to hesitate, wondering if I could adapt to this family.". With this in mind, I told my mother about my experience at my boyfriend's house. After hearing about it, my mother repeatedly objected to my boyfriend and me being together, saying what else. She didn't listen to the old man and suffered immediately. Now I don't know what to do?
Reply from the maintenance consultant:
Although marriage is now about matching families, the foundation of relationships is the most important. After hearing your introduction to your boyfriend's family, your mother naturally doesn't want women to suffer, so she should vote against it. After arriving at your boyfriend's house, you encounter unprecedented differences in lifestyle, and naturally experience a sense of loss. After all, there are differences between children living in cities and children living in rural areas. "But family background is not something we can choose from. People say that children of the poor are early masters of the family. You should consider the excellence of your boyfriend, not limited to their family situation.". You need to understand that having love can have great motivation, and let your parents know this. If a man truly loves his wife, he will definitely find ways to give him the best living conditions, which will also become his goal of struggle and give him unlimited motivation.
It is recommended that you conduct in-depth communication with your boyfriend, and both of them systematically summarize their future plans. Frankly share your concerns with him, and I believe he will understand. What is happiness? Happiness is holding onto the happiness in your hand and not letting it run away. Let your boyfriend visit your home, let your parents also appreciate your boyfriend's excellence, let them have a deep understanding of your boyfriend, so that their opposition will be reduced, and you work together to create your own future.
