I miscarried unexpectedly and couldn't have children. I chose to marry my husband again, but he already had a woman behind my back

My husband and I have been married for six years, and our relationship is very good. The only regret is that I haven't been able to add a son for him. When we first got married, our life was very difficult. He and his parents crowded in a small two-bedroom house, eating and living together, especially easy to make conflicts. After living together for a year, our parents helped us pay down to buy a house, which changed my impression of the two old people. Then, my mother-in-law began to put forward the idea of giving me a baby, and I also compromised.

After half a year of preparation, I successfully conceived my baby. My husband went home after work and didn't dare to stay outside for a moment. He cooked for me and cooked soup for me. I was very obedient and good-tempered. During pregnancy, my mood was unstable. He took me out for relaxation and took me to play in Sanya to relieve my stress. When I was worried about spending money, he comforted me: I am particularly moved that you should trust your husband's earning ability. Here, my mother-in-law gives me maintenance products every two days, which is very good.

When I was four months old, I thought that the fetus was almost stable, so I did some housework properly and took the basket to the market to buy vegetables and cook. During this period, I didn't find any accidents.

But the arrival of bad luck makes people defenseless. When I washed the vegetables, the water splashed on the ground, and I didn't have time to drag it off. When I was cooking, the oil pan was too hot, and I moved too fast, and I didn't stand still. I stepped on the water at once, and my body fell back, and my reflexive hands were on the ground, but I still sat on the floor, and my stomach was sore, and soon I bled.

I was deceived and called my husband. He sent me to the hospital, but the child still fell. The whole family didn't say anything. From their eyes, I could see the blame for me. I also felt guilty for my carelessness. Since then, I have been particularly negative, paralyzing myself with work, and at the same time, I hope to have a baby soon to make up for this mistake.

But the Lord was against me. After miscarriage for a long time, my stomach was still very calm. Although my husband didn't say anything about me, my mother-in-law looked at me all day, and I became more and more nervous. I went to the hospital for examination, and the doctor gave me the answer that I couldn't get pregnant because I didn't recuperate from the last miscarriage, and my heart knot was too heavy, resulting in infertility. I really can't accept this thunderbolt news.

After the news spread, my husband behaved well and my mother-in-law's attitude towards me plummeted. How embarrassing it is for a woman to have no children. I want to stabilize my position at home by making money. I also succeeded in opening a clothing store with my husband. I made a lot of money and opened a branch store. But in the dead of night, I can always hear my husband's sigh. I put forward a divorce. If he has half the family property, he can remarry and fulfill his wish of becoming a father.

If he didn't say anything, I would treat him as acquiescent. He signed the divorce agreement and gave it to him. Instead of signing it, he confessed one thing to me. He said that if it went well, he would be a father in more than a month.

I was surprised, he continued, that in recent years he was under great pressure. When he was depressed, he met a woman and was pregnant. They had negotiated that when the child was born, he would raise it and give the woman a sum of money as compensation. I still hope I can continue to live with him, just accept the child. I was angry. I thought I was going away and he would have a better life, but now it seems that he has already had children with other women behind my back.

If I divorce, I will help him and the third party. If I don't divorce, I will accept the illegitimate son. Suddenly, I felt sorry for myself and thought for others, but I was betrayed by others. To me, leaving and not leaving is a kind of pain. What should I do?

reply:

For your own reasons, you originally intended to use your leave to fulfill your husband's wish to be a father, but he used betrayal to satisfy his wish. You are angry and resentful. These can be understood. After all, there is no sign of a woman and a child emerging, which is hard for anyone to accept. Now that things have come out, we should learn to deal with them. You now have two choices:

First, divorce, go through legal procedures, completely resolve the relationship between you and your husband, and do not grievance yourself to take care of his illegitimate children and live the life you want, but at the same time, any behavior of your husband has nothing to do with you. After divorce, you should learn to adapt, do not hear his news, and add to your worries.

Second, if you don't divorce, you will have to discuss the children with your husband. If adults are wrong, the children are innocent. You can't give him a child. If he insists on raising this child and you don't agree, there must be contradictions. Of course, you can only adjust the grievances. There will inevitably be contradictions in the details of life in the future. After all, this is a child born by him and a woman outside. Your mind is unbalanced. If you can't learn to adjust, your life will not be easy.

Therefore, no matter what choice you make, it is very painful. You should weigh the interests and grasp them yourself. Don't hurt yourself.