I married a beautiful bar girl as my daughter-in-law, and after getting married, she carried me back to work. I was so depressed that I went crazy

Since childhood, I have been growing up in the countryside. My parents have been trying to make money for me to study in order to help me escape poverty in the countryside. I am also quite proud, and I receive scholarships every year. My parents always say that I am 'proud of my child, I didn't raise him in vain'. Due to family conditions, I have dated two or three girlfriends, all of whom fell out after meeting their parents at home. The reason is simple: I feel that my family is poor and cannot afford to buy a house or a car for her.

I can't fathom things like emotions. The reality of girls makes me feel inferior. I work hard just to one day stand out and prove to those who give up on me. After several years of hard work, I made a down payment for a house in the county town. I brought my parents over and enjoyed the convenience of living in a big city. Going out is the bus, and nearby are parks and supermarkets. My parents live happily.

I am away all year round and can't go back for a few days. In order to prevent them from being lonely, I also bought them a little dog. When I have nothing to do, I stroll around the little dog to pass the time. I'm almost thirty now, and the matter of marrying a daughter-in-law hasn't been settled yet. Every time my parents go back to their hometown, they feel depressed for a few days, complaining that I didn't marry them a daughter-in-law and couldn't fulfill their wishes to be grandparents, especially my mother. She even tears as she spoke, which made me feel quite distressed.

I put down my work and took a long vacation for myself, intending to spend more time on the blind date journey. At this moment, a girl named Qiqi broke into my life. I met her when a few people were drinking at a bar. She said that when selling alcohol, it doesn't matter if there are any open matters, even if they are being robbed.

Her hard work made me feel like I was back then, and I couldn't help but feel a heartache. Afterwards, I often went to that bar to sit for a long time, and we got to know each other. She told me about their family's affairs. Her parents passed away early, and she lived with her uncle. His uncle was not good to him and often scolded her. She got into college without money, dropped out of school, and started working. She tried various jobs and felt that the money came quickly. I have inexplicable sympathy and an impulse to protect her.

After several encounters, I confessed to her. I am five or six years older than her, and she is very willing to be my girlfriend. In rural areas, being a bar maid is a very bad profession and can be gossiping. So, I asked her to quit her job and find a relaxed front desk job at the company. Afterwards, I took her home to meet her parents. Her parents were very satisfied with her and gave her a big red envelope. As for asking about her profession, I casually found a reason to dismiss her. Next, we got engaged, and then we held a wedding.

After getting married, we returned to our job positions and started a normal life. After less than half a year of good times, my wife is tired and feels that the company's work is too restrictive and lacks the professional freedom she had before. I advise her to look ahead. Working in a bar is not a legitimate profession, and it is also not good for your health.

She remained silent. Recently, she has always returned in a drunken state. When I asked her about her situation, she said that her boss asked her to accompany the party and had an extra two drinks. Once or twice, I can still believe it, but after three days and two carrying alcohol, I am a bit puzzled: how can there be a front desk that accompanies customers to socialize every day. I took a special day off and followed her to work.

She didn't go to the company, but took a taxi to a bar. At first, I thought she was skipping classes to relax. However, shortly after entering, she changed her work clothes and sold her liquor everywhere. Someone touched her buttocks and even smiled. I was so angry that I really wanted to slap her on the spot, but due to face saving, I still suppressed it.

Back home, I waited for her to finish work and questioned her. As soon as I asked her where she had gone, she was very vigilant and noticed that I was following her. She asked me, 'You already know, why do you ask me?'. At that moment, I couldn't help but burst out and asked her to quit this job quickly, otherwise the parents at home would know and not get angry. She refused to do anything, saying that she only had this ability to make money and couldn't do other jobs.

I trembled with anger and said, 'Don't make money anymore, I can always support you.'. She smiled disdainfully and said, "What are you using to support me? Just your salary, deducting rent and mortgage, how much can you still have? Her sneer made me feel cold. Initially, she also despised me like this. Perhaps it was to find a harbor that she agreed to marry me. I don't know how to persuade her. Her self-esteem has been severely hurt by her, what should I do with her?

reply:

Her childhood family background led her to feel that money could provide her with a sense of security. A comfortable life makes her feel less reliable than money. Similar family backgrounds, in a specific emotional situation, you two meet, know each other, and love each other. She married you not because she wanted to rely on you to control her future life. The factors of family growth make her develop an independent personality, making it difficult to distinguish this work situation, and may be criticized by others. Therefore, you should communicate well with your wife to prevent her from living a normal life. That kind of situation is indeed not suitable for long-term stay. Good luck.