I helped my husband and his little lover, and after the divorce, he came to pester me again

Our husband is widely recognized as a model husband and wife, with the male leading the way and the female leading the way. We cooperate very well. After seven years of marriage, I managed him, his children, and our cozy little home in an orderly manner. This comfortable and stable life has been disrupted by my husband. He fell in love with the little girl at work, seven years younger than him, and her age was the same as when I met my husband back then.

If it was unrequited love, I would have thought about reversing his thoughts, but it happened that a third party also followed him like they were possessed. They hugged and kissed each other in their selfie on their mobile phones, which made me feel like a knife in my heart. At the moment I first learned of his infidelity, I did not hesitate to propose a divorce and did not listen to any explanation from him. One person has half of the property, and this family was bought by me and him through our joint efforts for five years. Now I want one share and two halves, and it hurts to think about it.

Due to the rush of handling the procedures, I haven't found a place to live yet, and I don't want to go back to my mother's house. That would be too embarrassing. And he couldn't give me such a large sum of money at the moment, so he was ready to sell the house and share it with me in half. We have reached an agreement that I will temporarily stay at our house until I sell it before leaving. The premise for me to agree to this condition is that I am not allowed to bring that woman home, and my freedom is not under his control. He agreed.

So our seven year marriage came to an end. We have not made the divorce public. The child is entrusted to the school and comes back once a week. I found a job and was barely able to support myself. After divorce, living under the same roof can be awkward, and he constantly cares about me, but I can't accept it anymore. After all, it's okay. I have heard him on the phone with his little lover multiple times, and his meaty words made me cry. Those words were only said to me before.

Not long after my divorce, I was pursued by a single man, also known as a second marriage. I still haven't come out of the shadow of divorce, haven't refused or agreed to the other party. The two people are in a neutral connection. My husband learned about my situation and he directly lost his temper with me, preventing me from socializing with the other party. He also said that he had secretly investigated the other party and felt that they were not serious. I resent getting divorced and interfering in my personal life. But he said, 'Unless you don't live in this house, I have the right to take care of your affairs.'.

Why is he doing this? I want to move out, he can't take out the property that belongs to me. I can't stand a man like you and me outside, who comes home and has to take care of me. The reason why I agreed to divorce and not leave home is entirely because I am worried about my child. He is still young and I don't want him to live a single parent family so quickly. But when I think of my husband saying those things to me, I feel like I'm being sidelined.

That day, he got drunk and pulled me to say a lot of things. He also said he regretted getting divorced, and the longer he had contact with his little lover, the less he had a common language. My heart is particularly troubled. He easily falls in love with others and easily says he regrets divorce. Should I trust him or not? Very confused!

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

Hello. I sympathize with your experience. From your account, it can be seen that you agree that your husband will not leave home after divorce. In fact, deep down in your heart, you still hold a glimmer of hope for your marriage. After divorce, the property is divided into two halves. If he cannot take it out, he can use tough measures. After all, you are now protected by the law, but you have chosen to stay at home instead of doing so. It can be seen that you are still struggling and wandering in your marriage, still watching this marriage.

When faced with a suitor, if you don't accept it, it's because divorce leaves a shadow over you. Secondly, once you accept the other person, you have to leave the family and your marriage with your ex husband will come to an end. You hate your ex husband being in charge of you, but you haven't been able to stop his mouth in actual action. At the moment he got drunk, you expressed regret for divorce to you, and you immediately hesitated, indicating that you really can't let go of him or this family in your heart.

You also pointed out that the divorce was in a hurry and was also a momentary impulse. Now that the divorce has made your ex husband very regretful, you can take this opportunity to further restore your tender relationship and repair your injured family. Don't let your actions run counter to your thoughts, follow your heart.