Post Date December, 03 2023
Recently, I met someone who was causing me a lot of trouble. Let me first talk about this person's situation. He is married and has a daughter who is over two years old. He has performed well in his work. My wife and mother-in-law don't get along well. She takes care of her own children in a community. According to his description, his wife has a bad temper. Apart from going to work, she always gets up early to cook, and takes her children to do household chores and cooking when she comes home from work. Her wife is often very cruel to him, and she is also cruel to the children. Overall, she doesn't make sense of the type and doesn't worry about big or small things.
At first, we met online to chat about family life, and gradually developed feelings that were very frustrating. He thinks I am the person he wants, and I also appreciate his dedication to his family. Emotions may influence, but of course, I also know that the beauty that has not been put into reality may be a fantasy. I also know that extramarital relationships are not recognized, but it's still not possible to stay out of touch. Sometimes I think he understands me very well, and I don't know why my husband doesn't understand me. I cannot accept such feelings in my heart, not because of the mundane world, but because of the compromise of the real environment. Each person has a family, and my love philosophy is to love well if there is love. Reality is impossible, but I cannot give up. Sometimes reason prevails, sometimes emotions erupt, and people are in a daze, unsure what to do?
reply:
Hello, the reason why extramarital affairs are tempting is often not because of how good the other person is, but because one imagines the other person to be too perfect, in fact, they are just deceiving oneself. There is a fatal weakness in human nature, which is that what we have is often not cherished, and we always feel that what we cannot obtain is the best. You and this man are just in a virtual space, confiding in each other's grievances and troubles. What you enjoy every day is nothing but a spiritual massage of nothingness, far from reality. Because of the distance that cannot be seen or touched, it will also amplify the infinite imagination of each other. Because you have complaints and dissatisfaction with your husband, and the other person always shows you their perfect face to the fullest, you will be particularly concerned, sensitive, and warm about the warmth and comfort from the other person. In fact, you are currently on the brink of danger. After your mental infidelity, there will inevitably be a day of physical infidelity. Once you fall into the quagmire of extramarital affairs, it will be difficult to extricate yourself. Therefore, you must maintain rationality and sobriety. Fortunately, you still have a trace of rationality and haven't fully immersed yourself in it yet. At this point, you must strive to overcome yourself. You need to understand that you are a person with a family, children, and husband, and the other person is also not qualified to have romantic relationships. Although the husband may not be very satisfactory to you, you need to understand the truth that whoever becomes your husband may have a side that cannot satisfy you. This is a very helpless reality, It's just that you haven't experienced it, it's hard to feel it. While you haven't slid too far in a deformed emotion, it's time to cut yourself off. Otherwise, if you don't listen to advice and try water with your own body, the pain it brings you will be much greater than now. Good luck!
