Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I fell in love at first sight, and within a month of meeting, we were settled. After we were together, he told me that he had a previous marriage and had a daughter. "I am a very traditional woman, and I thought that since everything is done and the raw rice is cooked, I didn't argue about it.".
Moreover, I had feelings for him, so I acquiesced. To be honest, he has a strong sense of responsibility and career, which is one of the reasons why other women like him. It is also because of his sense of responsibility and career that marriage has reached this level, making people shed bitter tears and difficult to swallow.
"We got married in 2003 and gave birth to a boy in 2004. He has always loved me and never played with women outside, because his sexual needs are not very strong, and he only thinks about his career.". Previously, we opened a small factory that could earn about 200000 to 300000 yuan per year.
My family and classmates all envy me and feel that I have found a good husband who is kind to me and has a decent income. At least I don't have to worry too much and worry too much about my life. Before I met him, I worked in an office subordinate to a township. After I met my husband, he said that you'd better come out and help me. I'm running outside, and my family is not at ease. The salary for hiring someone is more than what you get at the unit. "At that time, I was so young that I really quit my job when my head was hot.". Now that eight years have passed, the twists and turns of life make me regret it when I recall it!
In 2004, after giving birth to a child for three months, I discovered his first affair. "At that time, I was only 23 years old, and the woman was in her thirties, and she wasn't very good looking.". "I couldn't figure out why my husband was with her. At that time, I was hysterical like a madman, quarreling and questioning suspicions every day..."
Now think about it, it's not necessarily a good thing for a man to be too kind to a woman, because he has been behaving well all the time, and suddenly something like this happens, and I can't accept it. Looking at my several month old baby, I couldn't make up my mind to divorce. Later, he said, if he really wanted to play with women, why didn't he know to find young and beautiful people to play with? During that time, he had been planning to buy a factory, and the woman was from a bank that could be used by him in terms of loans.
At that time, although I made trouble with him every day, he always coaxed me to endure me. He was a man with a violent temper. During that time, I lived like a year, but he always accompanied me, saying that everything he did was for the family and the baby. He loved me so much that he couldn't live without me. "I saw him like this, and although I hated him in my heart, I forgave him.". In the end, it turned out that he and the woman were really using each other. When his factory plan went bankrupt, they also lost contact.
Since then, he has not abandoned the idea of making the company bigger and stronger, and has been spending his energy on it. Therefore, in recent years, he has been spending a lot of money, and going out to socialize and find people to do things requires spending money. He is a stranger, and everything is built from scratch by himself.
Until 2008, I finally found a few friends to rent a piece of land, and invested a total of tens of millions to build a factory. After building the factory for a year, the economic situation of my family became worse and worse, because he spent all his energy on this area, didn't care much about the things in his factory, and the business declined rapidly.
After the new factory was built, it owed a debt of about one million yuan. I thought the economic situation would improve after it was put into production, but I didn't expect it to collapse before March. "We haven't had any income yet, and we owe more and more money, reaching around two million yuan.". After the company was shut down, the internal shareholders shuffled, and my husband wanted to find a friend to buy another shareholder's equity. After buying it, he had to add additional working capital. In the process of these things, many creditors sought debt, and the day went on like a year.
In all sorts of frustration, he spoke to a local colleague about this matter, who was a single woman. Her husband had died for several years, and she was in charge of a family business. Finally, the woman was willing to invest in working capital to build this factory.
The problem then came. Women have a sixth sense. I always felt something was wrong, so I took a chance to look at his mobile phone and found that he and the female boss had an unusual relationship. After a showdown, I was in my late 30s and after experiencing the big trouble at the age of 24, this time I was unusually calm.
Recalling these past few months, I have been understanding the pressure of his work and never asked for anything in terms of sex. When I learned about this incident, I thought that a few days earlier, he jokingly suspected that I was not in good shape and that it was very hard to do that with me. I obviously felt that his semen was much less than usual, and I was extremely angry.
He said that he had no choice but to choose this path because if the funds were not in place, he would have no courage to live. The interest on debt was increasing, and we could not repay it. Only by completing the new factory and making money to repay the debt can we make the family feel free. And he said that the female boss also made it clear that her money was invested in relationships. He looks very decent and never does anything messy that involves petty gain, nor does he look for a young lady. "If you want to blame him, you can blame him for his fate, and he has come to this point.".
He said that he was grateful to the female boss from the bottom of his heart. They helped him in his most difficult times, and their statement would not affect his normal family life.
He keeps saying that he loves me and the child, and he wants to find a way to repay the debt he owes in the shortest possible time. "But I always think that now this company is not going to quit after a year or two. I can tell he appreciates her, and I can tell he likes her. He won't be around other women casually.".
"I want to get a divorce, but before that, my parents helped him borrow hundreds of thousands of yuan from relatives. If he were to get divorced, he wouldn't be able to take out the money.". "I asked him to find the woman and give me an extra portion. He said that he never wanted to rob someone else's things. The working capital she invested in had shares, and he didn't want their money for nothing.". And when he disputes these things, he hates me very much.
"Currently, I am still working in the company, and he needs the funds of that woman. I cannot be separated from her internally and externally. I am really in a dilemma.". "He and I had a bad fight, and ultimately we could only lose and lose, both of us couldn't afford to step down.". Moreover, there is a real uproar, and it is unclear whether the female boss's funds will be available, which will make it even more difficult for the company. Looking at the path he has taken over the past few years, he has sent his family and himself on a path of no return. He himself said that he was unable to make a good life for his wife and children, but he has no regrets.
Considering the difficulties faced by the company and the fact that we are now grasshoppers on the grass, I have temporarily signed an agreement with him to the effect that because he has a woman outside, we temporarily separated for a year, and if we divorce for more than one year, the house and children belong to me, and he pays monthly maintenance fees; I will temporarily stay in the company until the end of the year, and I will be free to choose a job next year.
"He strives to pay off my family's debts at the end of the year, with a maximum period of one year, and I automatically give up my company's equity.". Although the agreement was signed rationally, I always asked myself: Is this path right or wrong? "I love him very much, and because I love him deeply, I am angry. Because I love him, I still have to save face for him in this situation.".
From his heart, he doesn't want to divorce me either, because I'm quite capable and take care of the overall situation, and we also have a very cute son. After a clear showdown with me, he openly stayed with the woman at night and didn't go home. "The separation agreement was signed, but he still doesn't want to leave home completely. If I insist, it would be tantamount to handing over his husband to someone else.". Should we go down this road? Give me some advice.
Expert response:
"You boast that your man has a sense of responsibility, a sense of career, and never fools around, but he has done it seriously twice, each time for the benefit of the other person.".
It can only be said that he is a relatively high-end duck, not retail only wholesale. First, I wholesale it to you and got hundreds of thousands from your mother's house; A few years ago, I wholesale to the old woman in the bank and almost got a loan; Currently, wholesaling to female bosses can probably bring in tens of millions of working capital injections from others. If it weren't for you silly women, where would his career be?
"It's just a duck. After losing hundreds of thousands of yuan from your family, you still don't want to let go, thinking that letting go would be cheaper for other women... Hey, you'd better postpone the agreement until the end of the year, and get the money your parents borrowed for him everywhere, so quickly list and sell this high-priced duck that looks good and decent.".
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
