I borrowed money from everywhere to help him start a business, and he had a slight ambition in his career, so he dared to live and relax with his lover outside

I followed him and suffered from complaints from my parents, incomprehension from my friends, and criticism from outsiders. I don't care about these things, my persistence has made our marriage a success. After marriage, the two of us worked hard and the good days beckoned to us.

We almost got married naked, without a house or car. I followed him to work in a big city and rented a house to live in. After working for several years, we praised a lot of money in our hands. I originally intended to use this money to buy a house at home and make a down payment first. Unexpectedly, his younger brother was dating outside and accidentally caused the girl's belly to grow. The woman's family refused to let go and demanded a dowry of 100000 yuan. If they didn't give enough money, they sued the court and accused his younger brother of bullying their daughter.

However, his younger brother's girlfriend was also foolish and didn't speak a fair word for his younger brother, following his mother's advice. I understand the conditions of his family, and my mother-in-law is simply unable to pay such a dowry money. My husband cherishes his parents and discussed with me to give them more than half of the money for buying a house. They have a deep affection for each other, and I have no choice. My parents, upon learning about the situation, scolded me for being foolish and said that I would never have any future in this life. I have no place to vent except for my sadness.

After the plan was broken, my husband felt very sorry for me and kept apologizing. Afterwards, I became pregnant again and had a baby in October. I couldn't work with my baby and the city was expensive. I took my child back to my hometown and lived with my mother-in-law. I couldn't fit into her world and was particularly uncomfortable. I constantly confided in my husband about my grievances. When my child was two years old, he told me his idea of starting a business. Only in this way can we buy a house early and provide a good living environment for the child.

Entrepreneurship requires funds, and he doesn't have enough money in his hands. I was anxious for him and raised money for him everywhere, even shamelessly borrowing from my mother's house. Before and after, I helped him raise 200000 yuan, and he was very moved. After the funds were in place, the project began to start. In less than two years, we paid off the debt and bought a house. He became increasingly busy and didn't have time to call me and my child.

Later on, I found out that he had taken care of his lover outside and rented a big house for someone else. The other person was an employee of his company, with some beauty and talent, so he was seduced. His company had just started to improve, but he actually focused on extramarital affairs. I felt angry when I thought about it. I cursed him fiercely, and he also voluntarily confessed his shortcomings and gave up on that inappropriate relationship. However, every time I think about borrowing money for him to start a business, raising children at home, and waiting for him, I feel sorry. How can this be done? It's too unfair. I can't persuade myself to forgive him, what should I do?

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

You are a couple in need, and it has not been easy along the way. Entrepreneurship is very difficult. You give him money and give him a helping hand, making him a good wife. However, you may not feel the spiritual pressure of entrepreneurship because during this period, you are always at home taking care of your children and household chores. When he needs spiritual food, your absence allows other women to take advantage of it, penetrate into his heart, and release his mental pressure.

At the moment you discover it, he realizes the immorality of his behavior and takes the initiative to distance himself from his lover. At this point, you are already extremely disappointed with him, but you don't want to break up your marriage yet. During this period, you should communicate well and observe his performance. If he sincerely repents, give him a chance to find the shortcomings of your marriage and adjust your marriage life in a timely manner. The warmth of the family will naturally strengthen the friendship.