Post Date December, 03 2023
We have been married for more than ten years. My son is ten years old. He was promoted to the fourth grade of primary school in September this year. He is very good and has good grades.
I don't have a job. It's like picking up children and tutoring homework at home. I also wanted to go out to work, but my husband disagreed. He said that everything at home was too busy to finish, and let the child go to junior high school. I love my husband very much, and I never changed my mind for many years. Even if he hit me after being angry, I can calm down quickly afterwards. I always feel that it is my fault. It is not easy for him to earn money to support his family alone, but there is a knowledge that he is taking care of his lover outside now.
When I first married him, the whole family disagreed and said that he was idle. I finally followed him persistently. He is just an ordinary technician and has little money. When I saw him in bed with that woman, I didn't know if I could live with him. I don't know why I am so attached to him, is it because I am not promising? I'm a yellow face. I only have a junior high school education. I can't earn money. I'm afraid of being laughed by my mother and family when I divorce him... If he can change his mind, I hope we can continue to live. After all, I have paid a lot for this family and him, and I still love him.
Miss Lin:
Smart women should not only protect the dignity of their men, but also let the third party feel ashamed. Even if your husband really does something wrong to you, you must think calmly, weigh the gains and losses, and grasp the degree of dispute with your husband. The so-called "needle in the middle of the earth" is to overcome hardness with softness. As a wife, you might as well give your husband more forgiveness and tolerance. Your tolerance will move him and make him feel guilty. Only guilt can make atonement, and only gratitude can repay.
It is suggested that if you can, you should be separated from him for a period of time. As a woman, you should not give up your pursuit because of marriage. If your life changes, you must first change yourself. Your life should still be in your own hands. Remember that no matter what you do, you must be responsible for yourself and let yourself care for yourself. Only a woman who knows how to love herself can someone love you more. Taking a man too seriously, or even unconditionally forgiving him for his mistakes, will only make your chips in his heart lighter.
